My guidelines for real meetings

Rule 1) :

No, it has nothing to do with the size of your dick, your sexual stamina, your age, or anything of the sort. It is a matter of preference; if you are a man, I will only meet you if you are black. If you are a man and you are not black, then we are not going to meet. Period. Please don't try and convince me that it is OK if you are not black. If you are that insensitive, you probably won't be a very considerate lover anyway, and I don't want to meet you. And yes, women are exempt to this rule.

Rule 2) :

How can I agree to meet you if I don't know your physical characteristics? If you ask to meet me and you have not provided me with pictures (at best on your profile; at worst emailed with the request) then you are putting me in the awkward position of having to ask you for them. I HATE having to say no after I receive pictures that I had to ask for. Me having to ask for pictures is a strike against you, again, because if you are that insensitive, you probably won't be a very good lover anyway.

Rule 3) :

Bringing along a friend or two will certainly increase the odds of me saying yes. See rules 1 and 2 - they apply to your friends as well.

Rule 4) :

Being local will also increase the odds of me saying yes (local means in the greater Boston area... it is easier/safer for me to meet in and around Boston). It is likely that we will only meet for a few hours, and unless you were traveling to my area for other reasons, I will feel guilty about you having to travel to see me.

Step 5) :

I like to video everything I do. Isn't that one of the reasons you were attracted to me in the first place?

Step 5b)

I like to POST the video that I take, and I can't do that without a signed release. That includes a picture of your id.

Step 6)

I love to play, but it is not worth dieing for! So you either have to have documented blood/urine STD test results (originals, not copies, less than a week old) and be prepared to show ID. I dislike condoms because I am allergic to latex (even band-aides give me a rash) and I prefer the feel of skin on skin, which is why I have these mandatory testing requirements.

Rule XXX) :

This is one of the most common rules of the swinging lifestyle. Please don't ask me to defend myself or explain WHY if my answer is no. Chances are good that you will be putting me into an uncomfortable social situation if you do so. What do you expect will happen? That I will suddenly say YES if you start calling me a bitch?