Male Sexual Pain
Q: When I get an erection, it goes pretty much straight up, like against my belly. And it gets very hard (what a burden, right). The problem is, to jerk off or have sex in pretty much any other position, I need it to be at more of a 45-degree angle, if you catch my drift. And inevitably, after a minute or two, I start to experience pain around the base of my penis because of the position change. It gets so distracting that I can’t finish. Is this just a physiological curse because of the way my body was set up or is there something that I can do about it?
A: Pain with erections is commonly the result of a condition called Peyronie’s disease. This usually affects older people and is usually associated with a curvature of the penis caused by scar tissue due to a history of some penile injury. In your case, it doesn’t seem that your erections are causing you pain. You are describing pain only in certain positions. Keep in mind that many men have some angle to their penises (straight up, to the left, to the right, or basically pointing in any other direction). You may have to experiment with different positions to find the one that causes you the least amount of discomfort. Just to be sure nothing else is going on, you may want to speak to a Urologist (a penis specialist), and discuss whether there are ways to reduce this discomfort.
Pain After Sex
Q: My partner works a few hours away from where we live on a schedule where he spends one week at home and one week at work. When he gets home, we usually have sex a few times the first day, and then at least once each day after, but by the fourth or fifth day I usually get a pain in my vagina. It’s kind of sharp. I still want to have sex, but my body doesn’t seem to want to, like it’s “tired.” Is there a way to treat this pain? Or prevent it?
A: Your vagina is clearly getting a workout! It’s perfectly normal to feel sore after frequent intercourse. You need to give yourself a bit of time to heal. That doesn’t mean you have to stop all sexual activity. Maybe by day 4 or 5, focus on oral sex and clitoral stimulation instead of intercourse. Also make sure to use some external lubricant which may ease a bit of the friction.