Unable To Orgasm With Partner
Q: Me and my significant other have hit a rock when it comes to having sex. I’m able to make her orgasm multiple times, but she has yet to make me climax, which she has become very upset about. This is a relatively new relationship, so we’re still learning about each other’s bodies but some advice would be great. I’m not sure if it has something to do with myself, I’ve thought about it, and I think that because I’m uncircumcised I’m much more sensitive, which may make some things uncomfortable.
A: I doubt that this has anything to do with her or what she is doing or not doing. It sometimes takes a bit of time to get used to a new sensation, a new body. The other thing that gets in the way is your own brain. If you are distracted by thoughts of performance or feel pressured to climax, this will interfere with the ability to let go. Try to focus on what your body is feeling rather than what you are thinking. Reassure your partner that you are attracted to her, have a desire for her and that she turns you on. Let go of this pressure, and have a little patience. I don’t think this is related to being uncircumcised, unless you experience pain with your erections, which might indicate a different problem (phimosis-which is when the foreskin “sticks” to the shaft and doesn’t retract fully when erect). The pain can thus distract you from the pleasure, making it difficult for you to climax. If this is the case, have yourself checked out by a doctor.
Clueless About Oral Sex
Q: I don’t know how to give oral sex to a woman, and I think it’s kind of weird. Am I putting my tongue in her pussy hole or what?
A: Firstly, no one is born a great lover or instinctively knows what to do in bed. We learn to be great lovers. The best way to get there is to communicate with your partner about what feels good to them, as we are all different. Generally speaking, women enjoy clitoral stimulation with the hand or tongue. You first need to locate the clitoris:
Once you do this, you can use your tongue to lick the area, moving your tongue back and forth and around. Some women like a sucking motion, and others like a lighter touch. Some women may like a finger in the vagina moving in and out or doing a “come here” motion at the same time as your tongue is on her clitoris. This is why it’s so important to ask what she wants. If it’s your first time, I can understand why you might feel a tad awkward. Many things can be awkward and scary at first, but that feeling usually goes away once we get used to it.