Brenda’s Advice to Alex, Who Want’s Explore His...
Alex, what a lot of new gurls don't get is that masturbating your flower isn't physical, it's emotional.
I suggest ensuring you are in a safe, quiet environment where you can spread your body out and be able to assume different positions as you need too.
Start with slow, soft touching and when your body is ready for more it will let you know. Keep your eyes closed, maybe get one of those sleep visors to help... one made of pink satin to help you feel your femininity.
Fingers are fine and will help you get farther along in your journey. ALL, and I do mean ALL of us started with our fingers. It is the natural way we explore ourselves and what our body has to offer and responds to. I don't recommend you go for the gold right away. Go for the touch and feel of yourself. See how tight your flower naturally is on its own. Enjoy it, make it last, use your fingers to trace its outline. Feel the muscle that's hidden just beneath the skin that covers it.
Honey, take your time and you will grow more than you know. At some point, you get the understanding that being the fuckee is not about your own physical enjoyment, it's about providing that physical enjoyment to your partner. It is indeed a frame of mind, and once you achieve it, look out because the physical part hits you like a freight train.
Out of nowhere, you'll be able to actually enjoy the forceful stretching of your tight little ring that in the beginning is so foreign and painful. Personally, I have stopped lubing myself and now only lube my partner or toy. I find that initial friction, coupled with the stretching of my little anal flower to be exquisite and emotionally, I am a ball of nerves knowing that once it starts to enter it IS going to hurt in such a lovely manner that I will begin to leak until he's finished or he's good enough to get me off first.
Fingers are perfect and in my opinion, just what it seems you need from what you describe. I would encourage you to introduce some lotion or lubrication. Obviously, if it stings or burns, stop and use a wash clothe to stop the pain. Best case: If you happen to be worked up enough, use your own slippery lubrication your little clitty is leaking-IT IS THE BEST LUBE YOU CAN FIND. That's why men leak pre-cum, it's nature's way to make sure copulation more successful by ensuring the semen is placed as deep as possible.
However, without constant re-application, pre-cum does get absorbed quickly as does most lotion. Actual manufactured lube can be a real eye-opener. Another lube on-hand most have access to is soap such as Dove, or facial soaps, as they have far less lye in them and are designed to be mild in cleaning power. Want an eye-opener? Lather up some Irish Spring and slip a lather coated finger up your bum hole. Guarantee the first time you do that your hole will feel like it's on fire!
I should also point out; If you are truly interested in masturbating your oh so tight little hole, realize that it is entirely different than masturbating like a man. Men stroke and fondle their erections, women/feminine males/bottoms/what-have-you masturbate their holes in anticipation of having them entered and fucked by men. So, don't confuse the two, your goal should be to masturbate your hole and you should only touch your "other" part to make sure it is not erect and get a finger full of pre-cum to add to your anal ring.
I'm not a chastity user, but do see the value in them if you do experience erections during anal stimulation. For me, the last thing I want is a man seeing my erect little clitty as he's having his way with my soul as he enters and exits me as he builds up his load he needs to release. To me, it ruins the image I'm trying to provide for him. Yes, we both know it's there, but why expose it and god forbid... See it erect? If that's what the man doing the fucking wants, why is he with a feminine male who's wearing women's clothes and smells like his favorite perfume?
And lastly, when I was very young and exploring my anal flower.... Butter, yes, I used butter as a lube. And now that I think about it, maybe I should try it again: I mean what man doesn't love the taste of butter???
In closing dear Alex, it is truly more emotional than physical. With enough gentle practice and exploration, one day the physical sensation you are seeking will hit you out of nowhere and your body will know exactly how to respond and you'll love it. And afterward, you'll want to spread your legs or bend over every and any chance you get. And as you feel that man entering your little anal flower you present to him, you'll love how different each one moves and vocalizes. You'll love how much power you actually have in the pairing. You'll love that he chose you to mount and ride and sweat and grunt and gasp...
I suggest ensuring you are in a safe, quiet environment where you can spread your body out and be able to assume different positions as you need too.
Start with slow, soft touching and when your body is ready for more it will let you know. Keep your eyes closed, maybe get one of those sleep visors to help... one made of pink satin to help you feel your femininity.
Fingers are fine and will help you get farther along in your journey. ALL, and I do mean ALL of us started with our fingers. It is the natural way we explore ourselves and what our body has to offer and responds to. I don't recommend you go for the gold right away. Go for the touch and feel of yourself. See how tight your flower naturally is on its own. Enjoy it, make it last, use your fingers to trace its outline. Feel the muscle that's hidden just beneath the skin that covers it.
Honey, take your time and you will grow more than you know. At some point, you get the understanding that being the fuckee is not about your own physical enjoyment, it's about providing that physical enjoyment to your partner. It is indeed a frame of mind, and once you achieve it, look out because the physical part hits you like a freight train.
Out of nowhere, you'll be able to actually enjoy the forceful stretching of your tight little ring that in the beginning is so foreign and painful. Personally, I have stopped lubing myself and now only lube my partner or toy. I find that initial friction, coupled with the stretching of my little anal flower to be exquisite and emotionally, I am a ball of nerves knowing that once it starts to enter it IS going to hurt in such a lovely manner that I will begin to leak until he's finished or he's good enough to get me off first.
Fingers are perfect and in my opinion, just what it seems you need from what you describe. I would encourage you to introduce some lotion or lubrication. Obviously, if it stings or burns, stop and use a wash clothe to stop the pain. Best case: If you happen to be worked up enough, use your own slippery lubrication your little clitty is leaking-IT IS THE BEST LUBE YOU CAN FIND. That's why men leak pre-cum, it's nature's way to make sure copulation more successful by ensuring the semen is placed as deep as possible.
However, without constant re-application, pre-cum does get absorbed quickly as does most lotion. Actual manufactured lube can be a real eye-opener. Another lube on-hand most have access to is soap such as Dove, or facial soaps, as they have far less lye in them and are designed to be mild in cleaning power. Want an eye-opener? Lather up some Irish Spring and slip a lather coated finger up your bum hole. Guarantee the first time you do that your hole will feel like it's on fire!
I should also point out; If you are truly interested in masturbating your oh so tight little hole, realize that it is entirely different than masturbating like a man. Men stroke and fondle their erections, women/feminine males/bottoms/what-have-you masturbate their holes in anticipation of having them entered and fucked by men. So, don't confuse the two, your goal should be to masturbate your hole and you should only touch your "other" part to make sure it is not erect and get a finger full of pre-cum to add to your anal ring.
I'm not a chastity user, but do see the value in them if you do experience erections during anal stimulation. For me, the last thing I want is a man seeing my erect little clitty as he's having his way with my soul as he enters and exits me as he builds up his load he needs to release. To me, it ruins the image I'm trying to provide for him. Yes, we both know it's there, but why expose it and god forbid... See it erect? If that's what the man doing the fucking wants, why is he with a feminine male who's wearing women's clothes and smells like his favorite perfume?
And lastly, when I was very young and exploring my anal flower.... Butter, yes, I used butter as a lube. And now that I think about it, maybe I should try it again: I mean what man doesn't love the taste of butter???
In closing dear Alex, it is truly more emotional than physical. With enough gentle practice and exploration, one day the physical sensation you are seeking will hit you out of nowhere and your body will know exactly how to respond and you'll love it. And afterward, you'll want to spread your legs or bend over every and any chance you get. And as you feel that man entering your little anal flower you present to him, you'll love how different each one moves and vocalizes. You'll love how much power you actually have in the pairing. You'll love that he chose you to mount and ride and sweat and grunt and gasp...
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