Bitch boi's blog; Entry 1
Hi, I'm sammi. I'm am the husband and lifelong slave to my Wife and Goddess. This blog will be a place for me to complete assignments and as a diary to explore my thoughts on our lifestyle.
I have been directed to a provide book report for my mistress to assist in my training to be a better submissive. This will be completed as ordered in single chapter assignments until complete.
The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
Chapter 1 Introducing Ourselves
The scope The New Bottoming Book is to help us better understand ourselves as bottoms. How to stay safe and healthy, better communicate with our tops, and embrace our status and be proud of it.
Bottom: Someone with the ability to enjoy things that would be unpleasant in in another context outside of BDSM. These are sensations, circumstances, and feelings, such as pain, helplessness, loss of control, embarrassment, and humiliation. A bottom has the ability to internalize these and transmute suffering into sex, pain into pleasure, and humiliation into desire.
Top: Someone who can eroticize these unpleasant experiences in scene
The book begins with a chapter introducing the authors and providing some of their background. It highlights some concepts and ideas on what it means to be a bottom and explains some of the benefits this choice offers.
The scope of this book is to help us understand ourselves as bottoms. How to hold our power and communicate better with our tops. How to stay safe and healthy, and how to be proud of our status.
This chapter goes in some depth into communication and its importance in our community and in our relationships. The Idea is put forth that basic definitions of who we are, what we do, what we are called or call ourselves are actually fluid. How you and your partner(s) define these things is how they are, there are no arbiters of what is and is not appropriate in scene other than ourselves.
A clever metaphor is put forth here. Kinky play is like gourmet food served in a fine restaurant; carefully prepared using exotic, spicy, sometimes unusual ingredients, it is an event not just a meal wolfed down to satisfy a physical need for sustenance.
This chapter has clarified somewhat my thoughts and feelings as a bottom. By surrendering control and placing my emotional and physical self into my wife's hands, I am creating a safe space to explore my submissive feelings and darker fantasies. And by giving her control, I help her to feel powerful, confident, and creative, providing the same shared space for her to explore and develop her fantasies and desires. By serving her I am rewarded with a way to relieve the day to day stresses life brings. I get to turn off my mind and experience emotions and feelings in a more primal, maybe even spiritual way. I am able to bring into the light a part of myself that by its nature is forced to otherwise remain dormant.
Sex magic is mentioned here with the following definition; combining ritual with BDSM to achieve spiritual transcendent states. Right or wrong I immediately identified with this as it relates to sub space. When taken there, all my emotional baggage vanishes and I feel this incredible bond with my wife. This is a concept I intend to explore further.
A short section on Kink Ethics is next. The importance of recognizing the difference between the fantasy of non-consensual activities and actual real world abuse. Consent in S/M is an active collaboration of all involved in the scene, for the benefit of each individual. BDSM provides a way to take these dark fantasies and finding ways to bring them to reality, safely and consensually. No fantasy is "politically incorrect" in your shared space within the scene.
I want to finish up this installment with some of the benefits I receive by being a bottom;
- I get to turn off my my mind to some extent. This is a powerful thing for me, the immediate lifting of pressure and stress from daily life when this happens is invaluable.
- A paradoxical feeling of safety and comfort in our shared space. It sounds crazy given the actual activities taking place but no less true for it.
- The opportunity to pleasure and satisfy my wife's needs and desires. I am rewarded immediately by her positive responses, both physical and emotional.
- The nervous excitement I always feel when we are playing is a powerful high, truely addictive.
- Surrendering to my wife give me permission to open up and let go, to enjoy the sensations and pain and accept them as a fulfillment of my secret desires
about the Authors
Dossie Easton is a ther****t living and working in the San Francisco Bay area. She has decades of experience as a bottom with some topping, and has written fiction under the pseudonym Scarlet Woman.
Janet Hardy has been doing BDSM for several decades as primarily a heterosexual top, but now considers herself a bisexual polymorphous switch. As Lady Green, Janet wrote the how to book "The Sexually Dominant Woman: a Workbook for Nervous Beginners".
Dossie and Janet have been writing together for many years, and both women have given seminars and classes around the country educating members of our community.
I have been directed to a provide book report for my mistress to assist in my training to be a better submissive. This will be completed as ordered in single chapter assignments until complete.
The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
Chapter 1 Introducing Ourselves
The scope The New Bottoming Book is to help us better understand ourselves as bottoms. How to stay safe and healthy, better communicate with our tops, and embrace our status and be proud of it.
Bottom: Someone with the ability to enjoy things that would be unpleasant in in another context outside of BDSM. These are sensations, circumstances, and feelings, such as pain, helplessness, loss of control, embarrassment, and humiliation. A bottom has the ability to internalize these and transmute suffering into sex, pain into pleasure, and humiliation into desire.
Top: Someone who can eroticize these unpleasant experiences in scene
The book begins with a chapter introducing the authors and providing some of their background. It highlights some concepts and ideas on what it means to be a bottom and explains some of the benefits this choice offers.
The scope of this book is to help us understand ourselves as bottoms. How to hold our power and communicate better with our tops. How to stay safe and healthy, and how to be proud of our status.
This chapter goes in some depth into communication and its importance in our community and in our relationships. The Idea is put forth that basic definitions of who we are, what we do, what we are called or call ourselves are actually fluid. How you and your partner(s) define these things is how they are, there are no arbiters of what is and is not appropriate in scene other than ourselves.
A clever metaphor is put forth here. Kinky play is like gourmet food served in a fine restaurant; carefully prepared using exotic, spicy, sometimes unusual ingredients, it is an event not just a meal wolfed down to satisfy a physical need for sustenance.
This chapter has clarified somewhat my thoughts and feelings as a bottom. By surrendering control and placing my emotional and physical self into my wife's hands, I am creating a safe space to explore my submissive feelings and darker fantasies. And by giving her control, I help her to feel powerful, confident, and creative, providing the same shared space for her to explore and develop her fantasies and desires. By serving her I am rewarded with a way to relieve the day to day stresses life brings. I get to turn off my mind and experience emotions and feelings in a more primal, maybe even spiritual way. I am able to bring into the light a part of myself that by its nature is forced to otherwise remain dormant.
Sex magic is mentioned here with the following definition; combining ritual with BDSM to achieve spiritual transcendent states. Right or wrong I immediately identified with this as it relates to sub space. When taken there, all my emotional baggage vanishes and I feel this incredible bond with my wife. This is a concept I intend to explore further.
A short section on Kink Ethics is next. The importance of recognizing the difference between the fantasy of non-consensual activities and actual real world abuse. Consent in S/M is an active collaboration of all involved in the scene, for the benefit of each individual. BDSM provides a way to take these dark fantasies and finding ways to bring them to reality, safely and consensually. No fantasy is "politically incorrect" in your shared space within the scene.
I want to finish up this installment with some of the benefits I receive by being a bottom;
- I get to turn off my my mind to some extent. This is a powerful thing for me, the immediate lifting of pressure and stress from daily life when this happens is invaluable.
- A paradoxical feeling of safety and comfort in our shared space. It sounds crazy given the actual activities taking place but no less true for it.
- The opportunity to pleasure and satisfy my wife's needs and desires. I am rewarded immediately by her positive responses, both physical and emotional.
- The nervous excitement I always feel when we are playing is a powerful high, truely addictive.
- Surrendering to my wife give me permission to open up and let go, to enjoy the sensations and pain and accept them as a fulfillment of my secret desires
about the Authors
Dossie Easton is a ther****t living and working in the San Francisco Bay area. She has decades of experience as a bottom with some topping, and has written fiction under the pseudonym Scarlet Woman.
Janet Hardy has been doing BDSM for several decades as primarily a heterosexual top, but now considers herself a bisexual polymorphous switch. As Lady Green, Janet wrote the how to book "The Sexually Dominant Woman: a Workbook for Nervous Beginners".
Dossie and Janet have been writing together for many years, and both women have given seminars and classes around the country educating members of our community.
8 years ago
The sentence I like most is "By surrendering control and placing my emotional and physical self into my wife's hands, I am creating a safe space to explore my submissive feelings and darker fantasies."