My views on gender and sexuality
So, as a man who has dated both women and trans women, I decided to pen a few thoughts on how I see gender and sexuality. For simplicity sake and although its not technically and anatomically correct, I will group CDs, Sissies, FemBoys, Shemales, Trannies all in the group trans women.
Aside from one, I have only been with pre-operative trans women (i.e. a person who still has their penis). I am 33 and at age 24, had my first experience in Mexico with a with a trans. I didn't really want to at first but she was persistent and also sexy as hell. I knew her gender but had this phobia inside me that it might mean I am gay. I never felt attracted to men though despite having showered with hundreds of them over the years mostly in high school and college athletics. I will say that being with trans women sort of grew on me and after a while, I ended up pursuing other encounters with trans women and while some of them were casual or ongoing FWB, I have dated seriously and long-term 2 girls. I have dated a few cis women since these encounters and relationships but honestly, it just doesn't do much for me any more.
I am convinced that for men who are either 'trans-adjusted,' 'trans-attracted,' or whatever terms you want use, they are born with different wiring in their brains. When I was 21, I was in a loud club waiting in line to make a request to the D.J. I heard all kinds of loud voices while waiting my turn and out of nowhere, I heard this different voice. I never even saw who it was but i recall the unique tone, a womanly voice with a hint of male...what I now refer to as that characteristics "B-Flat" sound of a trans woman's voice. Although I never got the chance to even see whose voice it was, the sound did something to me. It intrigued me and I was attracted to it. I now know this was the first sign that I was drawn to transgenders but I was never able to act on my attraction until a few years later down in Mexico.
So aside from voice, what else is it that draws us? Well for me, its the unique body structure. In other words, a form that is a bit taller and thicker than a natural woman and may have a slightly more masculine body structure. I actually have never been with any short or 'petite' trans women which is fine to me. Another huge attraction for me is being with a person with a conflicted gender. Many trans women are simply women born in a male body...aka a shell of their former selves. Their unique genitalia is an obvious attraction but I have learned over the years to never go overboard with showing interest there as some like it, some love it, but many would rather it wither up and fall off.
In conclusion, is a man who is drawn to trans women 'gay?' I say 100% conclusively NO. A trans-adjusted dude is simply a man adjusted to like this type of woman. In other words, a different type of straight guy. I have had offers before from gay men and always politely declined as its not my thing. Take from this what you will and I am quite sure that opinions vary but this is my take on the matter. Peace out.
Aside from one, I have only been with pre-operative trans women (i.e. a person who still has their penis). I am 33 and at age 24, had my first experience in Mexico with a with a trans. I didn't really want to at first but she was persistent and also sexy as hell. I knew her gender but had this phobia inside me that it might mean I am gay. I never felt attracted to men though despite having showered with hundreds of them over the years mostly in high school and college athletics. I will say that being with trans women sort of grew on me and after a while, I ended up pursuing other encounters with trans women and while some of them were casual or ongoing FWB, I have dated seriously and long-term 2 girls. I have dated a few cis women since these encounters and relationships but honestly, it just doesn't do much for me any more.
I am convinced that for men who are either 'trans-adjusted,' 'trans-attracted,' or whatever terms you want use, they are born with different wiring in their brains. When I was 21, I was in a loud club waiting in line to make a request to the D.J. I heard all kinds of loud voices while waiting my turn and out of nowhere, I heard this different voice. I never even saw who it was but i recall the unique tone, a womanly voice with a hint of male...what I now refer to as that characteristics "B-Flat" sound of a trans woman's voice. Although I never got the chance to even see whose voice it was, the sound did something to me. It intrigued me and I was attracted to it. I now know this was the first sign that I was drawn to transgenders but I was never able to act on my attraction until a few years later down in Mexico.
So aside from voice, what else is it that draws us? Well for me, its the unique body structure. In other words, a form that is a bit taller and thicker than a natural woman and may have a slightly more masculine body structure. I actually have never been with any short or 'petite' trans women which is fine to me. Another huge attraction for me is being with a person with a conflicted gender. Many trans women are simply women born in a male body...aka a shell of their former selves. Their unique genitalia is an obvious attraction but I have learned over the years to never go overboard with showing interest there as some like it, some love it, but many would rather it wither up and fall off.
In conclusion, is a man who is drawn to trans women 'gay?' I say 100% conclusively NO. A trans-adjusted dude is simply a man adjusted to like this type of woman. In other words, a different type of straight guy. I have had offers before from gay men and always politely declined as its not my thing. Take from this what you will and I am quite sure that opinions vary but this is my take on the matter. Peace out.
3 years ago
