Being in a strong relationship with open communication is key.  I’m not into the degradation/ humiliation aspect of the lifestyle but my wife is very attractive, very sexual and lures men in with a smile.  As an Alpha male, I know what she wants sexually…what makes her feel beautiful and desired…it’s the attention of other men.  It also fires up our own sexual life when we have pillow talk of her encounters.
I'm in favor of cuckolding, borderline obsessed but not in the porn way. I'm older and as I've aged I have grown to learn I am truly submissive with a desire to be in a Female Led Relationship (FLR). This is probably the best example of what I mean by not in a porn fashion. I'm looking for a Dominant woman who can lead me, but I want it to be part of a growing relationship which includes the cuckolding. My interests that bond with the cuckolding include interrracial, chastity among other interests. There requires very open, honest communication in the foundation of the relationship for the cuckolding to be successful. The communication sets up for the balance between the Domme and her sub, slowly building trust and extending limits. This is why I keep my guard up when I'm approached by online Domme's. There is a very fine line between topping from the bottom and truly submitting. I subscribe to the theory of a submissive has the power and turns it over to the Domme as trust is earned. It's a very unique balance between all of the above; what one see's in porn, topping from the bottom and true submission with honest open communication and growth. I'm really not into FinDomme, though I do know that in a true FLR there are financial responsibilities which I understand, I just don't find any enjoyment in just tossing my money at a female becasue she barks to send her cash.Â