About

I am a kinky pansexual male who has been in the lifestyle since the seventies. While I am married to my collared submissive, I play as a switch often. I love ballbusting and cbt, impact play and anal. I met my wife through a local BDSM group and we have been together for over seven years now.
I am not looking for a hookup or play partner here, I use sites like this for inspiration and scene ideas. My favorites categories are open for all to enjoy, I do not have many videos to post but working on it.
We are serious about the lifestyle and follow the safety guidelines, what we do for fun can be very dangerous if done wrong. BDSM play is not about dressing up and waving props, it is a dynamic power exchange in which attitude and control turn any sex into something truly special.
I have found some people's minds are just wired differently, pleasure forms a symbiotic connection with pain. Every sex act brings pleasure, but to really cum for me pain needs to be there also. Having my balls beaten at the moment of orgasm is a perfect combination, pounding the cum out of them is a feeling unmatched.
I am a Pansexual, it does not matter what gender or identification a partner has. Some of the best times were when at a party there was a room set aside with zero light, clothes were left outside, the only thing you knew was that there erotic people craving sensation and nothing was held back. That for me was a moment of pure, raw sex. You did not care what kind of hole you were fucking or have any idea who it belonged to, nothing but sensation with no distractions.
I do not judge anyone or their kinks. It may be something I do not understand or appreciate today, but there is a lot I enjoy now that was a hard limit a few years ago. I enjoy pushing boundaries and seeing how far I can go. My sub and soulmate is the same way. She performs service topping for me because she knows how I am wired but she is a true collared submissive. She is my soulmate and I am hers, we no longer play with others but belong to a local BDSM group for social contact and learning new techniques first hand. Most of our toys are handcrafted and we are always experimenting.