My BDSM Kinks Checklists

nadia’s Comprehensive BDSM-Fetish-Kink Checklist (multiple lists and formats):

Slave Punishment List (my ratings are in parenthesis after each, with 0 being something i will not do, and 5 being something that gets me dripping wet, RL (real life) is the first number, VR (online roleplay) is the second number):

List of painful punishments:

1. Blindfold me, beat me with several instruments (whip, cane, belt, wooden spoon, paddle, hand) 10x with each instrument, i have to guess which instrument You used, if wrong start over. (2,4)

2. Put a ring or leash around my neck and lock it to a wall in such a height so i cannot sit or stand and leave me in this uncomfortable position for a certain time. (3,4)

3. Put clamps to my body, especially nipples and clit, use a whip to whip them off one by one, each time You manage to remove one make sure i thank You gratefully for that. (2,4)

4. Give me electro shocks while i suck Your dick. (3,5)

5. Give me a clit or nipple piercing for my birthday. (1,5)

6. Use hot sauce or Chinese dragon salve on my nipples, if i deserve a severe punishment use it on my clit or ass. (2,4)

7. Let me ride a wooden pony or put a rope through my clit and pull it. (1,5)

8. Make me push out 10 candles with my clit or tits. (1,5)

9. Tie my hands above my head and hang me to the ceiling, leave me hanging for a long time, You may also give me a full body whipping. (1,5)

10. Shock my tits, ass and pussy until i cry. (1,5)

11. Let me roll the dice 3 times, first number: how many strokes multiplied by 10, second number: instrument (1=cane, 2=whip, 3=paddle, 4=hand, 5=flogger, 6=as You like), third number: which part of my body (1=pussy, 2 tits, 3=ass, 4=belly, 5=back, 6=as You like). (1,5)

12. Use stinging nettles on my skin. (1,5)

13. Put thumbtacks in my panties, bra and/or shoes and let me walk for a while, perhaps in public. (1,5)

14. Drop hot wax on my skin, especially my pussy, nipples and asshole, use a whip to remove the wax. (1,5)

15. Shoot me with a paint ball gun until my skin is covered with paint. (1,4)

16. Secure my wrists to my nipple rings (right wrist cuff to right nipple ring, left wrist cuff to left nipple ring) and have me go about daily activities like this (prepare dinner, clean the house, do laundry, ride Your cock). (2,5)

17. Tie me spread-eagled to the ground in the garden and leave me in the sun for several hours until my shaved pussy is sunburned, You can also put something underneath my ass so my pussy is pushed toward the sun, use oil to intensify the sunburn, honey to draw insects to torture me, then fuck my pussy hard. (1,5)

18. Put thumbtacks on a table, tie my legs to the table legs and my hands behind my back, put a leash around my neck and tie it to the other side of the table so that i must lay down with my tits on the thumbtacks while You fuck my mouth, pussy and ass. (1,5)

19. Let me watch my favorite TV show in an uncomfortable position (like kneeling on rice grains, standing in high heels with my feet tied, etc.). (1,3)

20. Have me kneel in front of You, head to the ground, ass in the air, legs spread, while You watch football, basketball, etc., every time when a the name of one selected player is mentioned on the TV i receive one stroke on my ass with the cane. (2,4)

21. Let me give You a blow job, i am to bring about Your orgasm within 5 minutes, for each additional minute that i need to earn Your cum i receive 10 strokes on my pussy. (3,4)

22. Put a rubber band between Your fingers, hold it close toward me and flip it precisely to the desired target. (2,4)

23. Use a toothbrush on my clit, intensify it by also using toothpaste with mint. (1,5)

24. Put weights on my nipples and pussy lips, time me as i crawl around the room on a predetermined course that can be done in one minute if rushing, for each second over 45 it takes me to complete the course, the weights stay on for one more minute while i go about my daily activities. (2,5)

25. Have me attach 100 clamps to my body while You watch me, i must masturbate in front of You with the clamps on, for each clamp that falls off until i orgasm i will receive 10 strokes with the whip. (1,5)

List of humiliating punishments:

26. Let me starve for one day and for dinner You tie me to the chair, put delicious food in front of me but at a distance that i cannot reach it, i must to watch You eat, You punish me for not finishing my food, for example by letting me starve a second day. (3,3)

27. Cum over my food. (3,5)

28. Let me shower using only cold water. (3,3)

29. Tie me to a chair and make me watch You fucking a younger girl, make me clean Your dick after You fuck her, let the young girl spit in my face before she leaves. (0,3)

30. Put love-balls or a plug inside my pussy or ass and make me go to my fitness center, dancing, etc. (1,4)

31. Do not allow me to wear bra or panties, send me to a sex-shop with a list of things to purchase (a whip, handcuffs, a collar and leash, nipple clamps, a butt plug, an oversized dildo, etc.). (2,4)

32. Tie me naked in the car, blindfold me, turn on the music loud, drive somewhere, go out of the car and leave me alone in the car for a while, You can additionally use a spreader bar or make me ride on a vibrator. (3,3)

33. Tie me up, cum all over my face and leave me alone with Your cum dried on my face. (1,3)

34. Tape a feed hopper to my mouth and make me drink every single drop of Your piss. (0,4)

35. Blindfold me and make me masturbate for Your entertainment. (4,4)

36. Do not allow me to cum when You fuck me. (2,3)

37. Tie me up real tight and make me cum 10x in a row without a break. (2,5)

38. Leave me tied for the night. (2,4)

39. Make me spend the night beside the bed on the floor or at the lower end at Your feet. (1,4)

40. Let me only crawl for a whole day. (2,4)

41. Let strangers use me. (0,5)

42. Ask me humiliating questions. (1,4)

43. Make me put on a gag, blindfold, a spreader bar and handcuffs behind my back, then wait for You like that until You come home to use me. (4,4)

44. Make me drink 1 or 2 liters of water, tee, etc., do not allow me to use the toilet for a certain time, have me do some exercises for You to earn bathroom privileges. (3,3)

45. Have me suck Your dick clean after You fuck me in the ass. (1,4)

46. Cum on the floor and make me lick up every single drop. (1,4)

47. Have me lick Your ass. (1,4)

48. Slap my face and spit on me while You facefuck me. (1,4)

49. Feed me in a dogdish on the floor. (2,4)

50. Make me clean the toilet with my tongue. (0,4)

51. Make me wear a collar in public. (3,5)

52. Put a remote controlled vibrator or electro shocker in my pussy and/or ass and go shopping or to the movies. (5,5)

53. Use my mouth as an ashtray. (1,3)

54. Let me write an embarrassing essay about what a dirty fuck slut i am, how much i need the punishment, how much i deserve to be used and abused, how much i like to be dominated by You, let me read the essay to You, judge it with the help of the whip. (3,3)

55. Have me crawl naked in the snow around the house to retrieve 3 tennis balls, throw snowballs at me while i look for the tennis balls. (2,4)

56. Tie me to a table, invite a second whore and let her sit on my face while You fuck her ass, using my mouth to relubricate Your cock as needed. (0,4)

57. Invite a second dominant whore, She strokes my ass with a cane while i deepthroat You until You cum. (0,4)

58. Take me to a BDSM club, hang me upside-down to the ceiling, legs spread, tie my hands behind my back, put a ring gag in my mouth and let everybody at the club use my face and slap my pussy. (0,5)

59. Have me cook a nice meal for You while i only receive stale bread and water. (2,4)

60. Tie me naked to a table, blindfold me, prepare some sushi on my body, invite friends for a sushi party. (0,5)

61. Tie me up and leave me naked without paying any attention to me, You may also put me in a cage. (2,4)

62. Let me chose 7 numbers between 1 and 61 (or draw them randomly from a hat as i learn what numbers are associated with what punishments), punish me according to the number of this list, one punishment a day for one week. (0,4)


Each activity below has 5 ratings next to it. Experience ratings are straight Y/N answers, "RL Interest" rates how i feel about actually doing the listed action, "RL Fantasy" rates how exciting the thought of doing the activity in RL is to me.

NO - i will NOT do that item under any circumstances

0 (zero) - i have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but i would be willing to do it to please my Partner/Dom if it they *really* wanted it.

1 - i don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object too strenuously if it was asked of me.

2 - this has no special appeal for me.

3 - i find this activity appealing and exciting.

4 - i desire this activity a good deal or find it very exciting and arousing.

5 - the activity is a wild turn-on for me, causing my sex to become wet very quickly thinking about it.

The five ratings from left to right are:

RL Experience - RL Interest - RL Fantasy - VR Experience - VR Interest

Abrasion N - 0 - 2 - Y - 3
Age play (Daddy/daughter) N - 1 - 2 - Y - 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes) Y - 1 - 4 - Y - 5
Anal plugs (large) N - 0 - 3 - Y - 5
Anal plugs (small) Y - 1 - 4 - Y - 4
Anal sex N - 0 - 4 - Y - 1
a****l roles Y - 2 - 3 - Y - 3
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) N - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Asphyxiation N - 0 - 3 - Y - 4
Auctioned for charity N - No - 5 - Y - 5
Bathroom use control Y - 1 - 3 - Y - 4
Beating (hard) N - No - 3 - Y - 5
Beating (soft) Y - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Being bitten N - 0 - 3 - Y - 4
b********y N - 0 - 5 - Y - 5
Blindfolds Y - 4 - 4 - Y - 3
Body worship N - 2 - 2 - Y - 2
Bondage (heavy) Y - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Bondage (light) Y - 5 - 4 - Y - 3
Bondage (public, under clothing) Y - 5 - 5 - Y - 5
Boot worship N - 2 - 2 - Y - 2
Branding N - No - 4 - N - 1
Breast whipping N - No - 3 - Y - 5
Breast/chest bondage Y - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Breath control N - 0 - 4 - Y - 3
Brown showers (s**t) N - 0 - 0 - Y - 1
Cages (locked inside of) N - 4 - 5 - Y - 5
Caning N - No - 3 - Y - 5
Catheterization N - 0 - 4 - Y - 5
Cells/Closets (locked inside of) N - 4 - 5 - Y - 5
Chastity belts N - 2 - 2 - Y - 3
Clothespins Y - 4 - 5 - Y - 5
Cock worship N - 2 - 2 - Y - 3
Collars (worn in private) Y - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Collars (worn in public) N - 0 - 3 - Y - 5
Cuffs (leather) N - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Cuffs (metal) Y - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Cutting N - No - 2 - N - 0
Double penetration Y - 2 - 4 - Y - 4
Electricity N - 0 - 4 - Y - 5
Enemas N - 1 - 3 - Y - 5
Enforced chastity N - 2 - 2 - Y - 2
Examinations (physical) Y - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Exercise (forced/required) N - 3 - 5 - Y - 4
Exhibitionism (friends) N - 0 - 5 - Y - 5
Exhibitionism (strangers) Y - 5 - 5 - Y - 5
Eye contact restrictions N - 2 - 3 - Y - 3
Face slapping N - 1 - 2 - Y - 3
Fantasy abandonment N - 1 - 2 - Y - 3
Fantasy gang-**** N - No - 3 - Y - 5
Fantasy **** N - 1 - 4 - Y - 5
Fisting (anal) N - No - 1 - N - 1
Fisting (vaginal) N - 0 - 5 - Y - 5
Following orders Y - 4 - 5 - Y - 5
Foot worship N - 2 - 2 - Y - 2
forced dressing Y - 4 - 5 - Y - 5
forced homosexuality N - 2 - 4 - Y - 5
forced masturbation Y - 4 - 5 - Y - 5
forced nudity (around others) N - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
forced nudity (private) Y - 5 - 5 - Y - 5
forced servitude Y - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Full head hoods N - 2 - 3 - Y - 3
Gags (cloth) Y - 3 - 4 - Y - 4
Gags (rubber) N - 2 - 2 - Y - 3
Gags (tape) N - 1 - 3 - Y - 5
Genital sex Y - 5 - 3 - Y - 3
Given away to another Dom/me N - 0 - 5 - Y - 5
Golden showers Y - 1 - 3 - Y - 2
Hair pulling Y - 2 - 2 - Y - 3
Hairbrush spankings N - 1 - 3 - N - 3
Hand jobs (giving) Y - 2 - 2 - Y - 2
Harnessing (leather) N - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Harnessing (rope) Y - 4 - 5 - Y - 5
Having clothing chosen for you Y - 4 - 5 - Y - 5
Having food chosen for you Y - 3 - 4 - Y - 4
Head (giving fellatio) Y - 5 - 3 - Y - 4
Hot oils (on genitals) N - 1 - 3 - Y - 3
Hot waxing Y - 1 - 3 - Y - 3
Housework (doing) Y - 1 - 2 - Y - 2
Human puppy dog Y - 2 - 4 - Y - 4
Humiliation (private) Y - 4 - 5 - Y - 5
Humiliation (public) Y - 1 - 5 - Y - 5
Hypnotism N - 2 - 2 - Y - 2
Ice cubes Y - 3 - 4 - Y - 3
Including others N - 0 - 5 - Y - 5
Infantilism (be diapered/babied) N - 1 - 2 - N - 2
Initiation rites N - 1 - 2 - Y - 3
Injections N - No - 3 - Y - 4
Interrogations N - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage N - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
k**napping N - No - 4 - Y - 5
Kneeling Y - 3 - 3 - Y - 3
Leather clothing N - 2 - 3 - Y - 3
Leather restraints N - 2 - 4 - Y - 4
Lectures for misbehavior N - 2 - 3 - Y - 3
Licking (non-sexual) Y - 2 - 2 - Y - 2
Manacles & Irons N - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Massage (giving) Y - 3 - 2 - Y - 2
Massage (receiving) Y - 5 - 2 - Y - 2
Medical scenes N - 2 - 4 - Y - 5
Modeling for erotic photos N - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Mouth bits N - 3 - 4 - Y - 4
Mummification N - 2 - 2 - Y - 3
Nipple clamps Y - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Nipple weights Y - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Oral/anal play (rimming) N - 1 - 3 - Y - 3
Orgasm control Y - 1 - 3 - Y - 2
Orgasm denial N - 1 - 2 - Y - 2
Outdoor scenes Y - 4 - 5 - Y - 5
Outdoor sex Y - 4 - 5 - Y - 5
Over-the-knee spanking Y - 3 - 4 - Y - 4
Phone sex (serving Dom) N - 2 - 3 - Y - 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends) N - No - 2 - Y - 3
Piercing (permanent) Y - No - 4 - Y - 3
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce) N - 0 - 4 - Y - 5
Pony slave N - 1 - 3 - Y - 3
Prison scenes N - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Public exposure Y - 4 - 5 - Y - 5
Pussy/cock whipping N - No - 2 - Y - 5
Religious scenes N - 1 - 2 - N - 2
Restrictive rules on behavior N - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Riding crops Y - 1 - 4 - Y - 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.) N - 0 - 4 - Y - 5
Rituals N - 1 - 2 - Y - 3
Rope body harness Y - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Rubber/latex clothing N - 2 - 2 - Y - 3
Saran wrapping N - 2 - 2 - N - 3
Scratching - getting N - 2 - 3 - Y - 3
Scratching - giving N - 2 - 2 - Y - 2
Sensory deprivation Y - 3 - 4 - Y - 3
Serving Y - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Serving as a maid N - 1 - 3 - Y - 3
Serving as art N - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Serving as ashtray N - No - 3 - Y - 3
Serving as furniture N - 1 - 3 - Y - 3
Serving as toilet N - No - 4 - Y - 5
Serving as waitress/waiter N - 2 - 3 - Y - 3
Serving orally (sexual) Y - 5 - 5 - Y - 5
Serving other Doms (supervised) N - 0 - 4 - Y - 5
Serving other Doms (unsupervised) N - No - 4 - Y - 5
Sexual deprivation (long term) N - 0 - 1 - N - 0
Sexual deprivation (short term) N - 1 - 1 - Y - 1
Shaving (body hair) Y - 3 - 3 - Y - 3
Shaving (head hair) N - No - 1 - Y - 1
sleep deprivation Y - 2 - 2 - Y - 2
Slutty clothing (private) Y - 5 - 5 - Y - 5
Slutty clothing (public) Y - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Spandex clothing N - 2 - 2 - Y - 3
Spanking Y - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Speech restrictions (when, what) N - 3 - 4 - Y - 3
Spreader bars N - 4 - 5 - Y - 5
Standing in corner N - 2 - 2 - Y - 2
Stocks N - 4 - 5 - Y - 5
Straight jackets N - 2 - 3 - Y - 2
Strapping (full body beating) N - No - 3 - Y - 5
Supplying new partners for Dom N - No - 1 - Y - 3
Suspension (horizontal) N - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Suspension (inverted) N - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Suspension (upright) N - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Swallowing semen Y - 1 - 3 - Y - 3
Swallowing urine Y - 0 - 1 - Y - 1
Swapping (with one other couple) N - 0 - 4 - Y - 5
Swinging (multiple couples) N - No - 3 - Y - 5
Tattooing N - No - 2 - Y - 2
Teasing Y - 2 - 2 - Y - 3
Tickling Y - 3 - 2 - Y - 2
Triple penetration N - 2 - 4 - Y - 5
Uniforms N - 3 - 3 - Y - 3
Vaginal dildo Y - 4 - 3 - Y - 3
Verbal humiliation N - 1 - 4 - Y - 5
Vibrator on genitals Y - 4 - 3 - Y - 3
Video (recordings of you) Y - 3 - 5 - Y - 5
Video (watching others) Y - 4 - 5 - Y - 5
Voyeurism (watching others) Y - 4 - 5 - Y - 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others) N - No - 4 - Y - 5
Wearing symbolic jewelry N - 2 - 2 - Y - 2
Whipping (flogger) N - No - 3 - Y - 5
Whipping (single tail) N - No - 3 - Y - 5
Wooden paddles N - 1 - 3 - Y - 3
Wrestling N - 2 - 2 - N - 2

BDSM-Fetish-Kink Checklist, Real Life Feelings Answers:

For each question below the number from zero to five (0-5) in the box indicates my feeling about the activity in real life (not my online role-play) based on this scale:

0. This is an absolute no go
1. This will turn me off, I don't like this
2. I'm not really into this, but if it turns my partner on I don't object
3. I'm not sure, let's try it out
4. This is fun, I like this
5. This is something I really do like/want

Note, just because an item is rated a “5” that does not mean it is something i have done, or would do, it might just mean i find the idea very exciting and get wet thinking about it!

Are there any specific types of people that turn you on?
[ 4 ] Soldiers, marines, paratroopers
[ 3 ] Sailors, coast guard, merchant marine
[ 3 ] Airmen, pilots
[ 4 ] Policemen, security people
[ 2 ] Truck drivers
[ 4 ] Firemen
[ 1 ] Executioners
[ 4 ] Nurses, doctors
[ 3 ] Prostitutes, tramps
[ 3 ] Hunters
[ 2 ] Wrestlers
[ 4 ] Surfers, life guards
[ 3 ] Motorcycle people, Hells Angels
[ 4 ] Cowboys, farm boys
[ 4 ] Gentlemen, nobility
[ 4 ] Business people, yuppies, managers
[ 4 ] Servants
[ 3 ] Teachers
[ 1 ] Daddy, uncle
Others, please specify: Musicians

Which of the following scenes would turn you on?
[ 4 ] Having a romantic dinner by candlelight
[ 5 ] I am spanked because I have been a naughty girl
[ 5 ] I am in the woods and suddenly this man comes from behind and grabs me
[ 5 ] A stranger walks into my bedroom and finds me playing with myself
[ 5 ] My partner and I are making love in a public place
[ 5 ] I am are sold on a slave market
[ 5 ] I am used as a slave in public
[ 5 ] I am used as a slave in private
[ 5 ] I am ordered to please others
[ 2 ] I am a little schoolgirl
[ 4 ] I am sitting/kneeling at my Master's feet
[ 5 ] I am are tied and teased
[ 4 ] I am grabbed by the hair and dragged into the bedroom
[ 5 ] I am used as a dog, pony or pet
[ 5 ] I am verbally humiliated
[ 5 ] I am tied, gagged and blindfolded and left alone
[ 3 ] I am tied, gagged, blindfolded and thoroughly whipped
[ 4 ] My physical limits are tested and stretched
[ 5 ] My mental limits are tested and stretched
[ 5 ] I have to sign a contract
[ 2 ] I am a total slave every day of the week
Others, please specify: I am ordered to serve a group in public, I am sold as a whore on a per hour basis with no limits to customers and I have no say in the matter, I am blindfolded and used and watched by a group of strangers.

Is there any particular clothing or fabric that turns you on?
[ 2 ] Leather
[ 2 ] Rubber, latex
[ 2 ] Patent leather, PVC
[ 5 ] Sexy lingerie
[ 3 ] Uniforms
[ 4 ] Denim
[ 2 ] High Heels
[ 4 ] Boots
[ 3 ] Wet suits
[ 5 ] Servants uniform
[ 5 ] Masks
Others, please specify: Business Suits, Formal Wear

Do any of the following environments or scenery turn you on?
[ 4 ] Your bedroom
[ 5 ] A dungeon, castle
[ 2 ] Churches and abbeys
[ 4 ] Farms and stables
[ 4 ] Barracks
[ 3 ] Abandoned construction sites
[ 4 ] Back alleys
[ 4 ] The red light district
[ 3 ] A school or a classroom
[ 5 ] BDSM-clubs
[ 5 ] Estates
[ 2 ] Junkyards and car dumps
[ 5 ] Woods and forests
[ 2 ] Medieval scenery
[ 5 ] Nudist beaches
[ 2 ] Parking spaces
[ 3 ] Truck stops
[ 2 ] The bath room
[ 4 ] Hospital, dentist
[ 5 ] Interrogation room
[ 4 ] The shrink's couch
[ 4 ] Boot camp
[ 5 ] Jail, police station
Others, please specify: The beach, Public locker rooms, Business offices

The numbers below from zero to five (0-5) indicate my feelings about each activity based on this scale:

0. Strongly Disagree
1. Disagree
2. Neutral
3. Agree
4. Strongly Agree
5. Agree Absolutely, 100%

I enjoy the following psychodrama(s):
[ 4 ] The dominant talks, the submissive is silent or speaks only when spoken to
[ 3 ] Dialogue in normal language
[ 4 ] Dialogue in adapted language ("Master" and "slave")
[ 5 ] Obey rules or else
[ 4 ] Reasonable rules
[ 2 ] Unreasonable rules
[ 1 ] It is OK for the dominant to lose his temper
[ 4 ] Swearing and filthy talk
[ 5 ] Military/jail type commands
[ 5 ] Strict training
[ 5 ] Obvious and explicit role play
[ 2 ] Subtle role play
[ 2 ] I like to be persuaded, rather than commanded
[ 4 ] Make me feel guilty
[ 4 ] Make me feel cheap
[ 5 ] Make me feel used
[ 5 ] Make me feel owned
[ 2 ] Make me feel useless
[ 5 ] Objectify me
[ 3 ] The dominant must have compassion
[ 1 ] The dominant must have no compassion at all
[ 2 ] The dominant must only have compassion after the scene
Others, please specify: Physical and mental humiliation, slavery

Sex and sexuality
[ 4 ] I need to be sexually aroused when in scene
[ 2 ] I need to be sexually aroused before I enter into a scene
[ 2 ] I like as many orgasms as I can get
[ 0 ] An orgasm turns me off
[ 2 ] An orgasm must only be allowed as a reward
[ 2 ] An orgasm is a must to end the scene
[ 4 ] Orgasms are not important, but nice
[ 1 ] Orgasms are not important at all
[ 2 ] I want to beg for an orgasm first
[ 4 ] I want my sexual abilities to be stretched
[ 3 ] I want/need sex during a scene
[ 2 ] I want no sex during a scene
[ 2 ] Sex should be used to relieve the tension
Others, please specify: Sex should never be the focus of a VR scene for me, but in the right place is always welcome as part of a BDSM scene.

I love the following attributes
[ 5 ] Ropes
[ 5 ] Leather cuffs and belts
[ 5 ] Steel cuffs and chains
[ 4 ] Ball and chain
[ 5 ] Blindfold
[ 4 ] Gags
[ 5 ] Masks
[ 4 ] Nipple clamps and clothespins
[ 3 ] Whips
[ 4 ] Riding crops
[ 3 ] Canes
[ 5 ] Silk to be tied with
[ 5 ] Sex toys (vibrators, butt plugs)
[ 2 ] Needles and pins
[ 5 ] Cross, rack
[ 5 ] Bondage table
[ 5 ] Cage
[ 5 ] Sling
[ 1 ] Body bag
Others, please specify: Being bound and impaled either analy or vaginally as part of my bondage

The following scenes appeal to me:
[ 5 ] Being tied up, caressed and loved
[ 5 ] Being in a public place and dominated in a subtle way
[ 5 ] Being taken out with collar and leash
[ 5 ] Being locked up and left alone
[ 4 ] Being tied up in a comfortable position
[ 3 ] Being tied up in discomfort
[ 5 ] Being tied up and (in a sexual way) exposed
[ 3 ] Being tied up and tickled
[ 4 ] Being tied up and (sexually) teased
[ 3 ] Being tied up and whipped, flogged or caned
[ 5 ] Not being tied up, but verbally commanded into certain positions and having to maintain these
[ 2 ] Caned, flogged or whipped without being tied or cuffed
[ 3 ] Being spanked in the traditional way
[ 4 ] Rough sex/being "****d"
[ 4 ] Used as a servant
[ 5 ] Being tied and tortured
[ 2 ] Being tortured without being tied or cuffed
[ 5 ] Being used by more than one dominant
[ 5 ] Playing in combination with other couples
Others, please specify: Being prostituted, serving with other slaves, being displayed and shared in public in a non-subtle way.

Safe words and signals
[ 5 ] The dominant should establish one or more safe words
[ 1 ] When I cry, the scene should stop
[ 5 ] I should be able to communicate in plain language
[ 4 ] The dominant should be able to read my body language
[ 1 ] I want to be tested when I use a safe word or signal
[ 5 ] All activity should stop immediately when I use a safe word or signal
[ 1 ] I do not want to use any safe word at all and my signals should be ignored completely
[ 4 ] When I use a safe word or signal the dominant should establish if the scene can continue
[ 5 ] A scene should go on up to the point where I use a safe word or signal
[ 5 ] The use of safe words and signals should be avoided as much as possible
Others, please specify: n/a

To me erotic power exchange is:
[ 3 ] Something I like incidentally, just as a kick
[ 3 ] Something I like, but not too often
[ 3 ] Something I want as much as possible
[ 3 ] A lifestyle that I consider important and want to practice as much as possible
[ 2 ] A lifestyle that should be present at all times
[ 1 ] My way of life
[ 1 ] The most important thing I can think of
[ 1 ] Something I want exercised at all times and no matter what the consequences are.
Others, please specify: Something that excites me IRL, but i only explore (for the most part) in VR. All answers given here relate to my RL fantasies and VR personality! -nadia

BDSM-Fetish-Kink Checklist, Virtual Role-Play Answers:

For each question below the number from zero to five (0-5) in the box indicates my feeling about the activity in my virtual role-play at Shangrila and Crystal Palace based on this scale:

0. This is an absolute no go
1. This will turn me off, I don't like this
2. I'm not really into this, but if it turns my partner on I don't object
3. I'm not sure, let's try it out
4. This is fun, I like this
5. This is something I really do like/want

Are there any specific types of people that turn you on?
[ 3 ] Soldiers, marines, paratroopers
[ 3 ] Sailors, coast guard, merchant marine
[ 3 ] Airmen, pilots
[ 4 ] Policemen, security people
[ 2 ] Truck drivers
[ 3 ] Firemen
[ 2 ] Executioners
[ 4 ] Nurses, doctors
[ 4 ] Prostitutes, tramps
[ 2 ] Hunters
[ 2 ] Wrestlers
[ 3 ] Surfers, life guards
[ 2 ] Motorcycle people, Hells Angels
[ 3 ] Cowboys, farm boys
[ 4 ] Gentlemen, nobility
[ 4 ] Business people, yuppies, managers
[ 4 ] Servants
[ 4 ] Teachers
[ 2 ] Daddy, uncle
Others, please specify: Pimps, Johns, Slave Traders

Which of the following scenes would turn you on?
[ 2 ] Having a romantic dinner by candlelight
[ 5 ] I am spanked because I have been a naughty girl
[ 5 ] I am in the woods and suddenly this man comes from behind and grabs me
[ 5 ] A stranger walks into my bedroom and finds me playing with myself
[ 5 ] My partner and I are making love in a public place
[ 5 ] I am are sold on a slave market
[ 5 ] I am used as a slave in public
[ 5 ] I am used as a slave in private
[ 5 ] I am ordered to please others
[ 2 ] I am a little schoolgirl
[ 4 ] I am sitting/kneeling at my Master's feet
[ 5 ] I am are tied and teased
[ 4 ] I am grabbed by the hair and dragged into the bedroom
[ 5 ] I am used as a dog, pony or pet
[ 5 ] I am verbally humiliated
[ 5 ] I am tied, gagged and blindfolded and left alone
[ 4 ] I am tied, gagged, blindfolded and thoroughly whipped
[ 4 ] My physical limits are tested and stretched
[ 5 ] My mental limits are tested and stretched
[ 4 ] I have to sign a contract
[ 4 ] I am a total slave every day of the week
Others, please specify: I am ordered to serve a group in public, I am sold as a whore on a per hour basis with no limits to customers and I have no say in the matter, I am blindfolded and used and watched by a group of strangers.

Is there any particular clothing or fabric that turns you on?
[ 2 ] Leather
[ 2 ] Rubber, latex
[ 2 ] Patent leather, PVC
[ 4 ] Sexy lingerie
[ 4 ] Uniforms
[ 4 ] Denim
[ 2 ] High Heels
[ 2 ] Boots
[ 3 ] Wet suits
[ 5 ] Servants uniform
[ 5 ] Masks
Others, please specify: Business Suits, Formal Wear

Do any of the following environments or scenery turn you on?
[ 4 ] Your bedroom
[ 5 ] A dungeon, castle
[ 3 ] Churches and abbeys
[ 5 ] Farms and stables
[ 4 ] Barracks
[ 4 ] Abandoned construction sites
[ 4 ] Back alleys
[ 5 ] The red light district
[ 3 ] A school or a classroom
[ 5 ] BDSM-clubs
[ 5 ] Estates
[ 3 ] Junkyards and car dumps
[ 5 ] Woods and forests
[ 2 ] Medieval scenery
[ 5 ] Nudist beaches
[ 2 ] Parking spaces
[ 3 ] Truck stops
[ 3 ] The bath room
[ 4 ] Hospital, dentist
[ 5 ] Interrogation room
[ 4 ] The shrink's couch
[ 4 ] Boot camp
[ 5 ] Jail, police station
Others, please specify: The beach, Public locker rooms, Business offices

The numbers below from zero to five (0-5) indicate my feelings about each activity based on this scale:

0. Strongly Disagree
1. Disagree
2. Neutral
3. Agree
4. Strongly Agree
5. Agree Absolutely, 100%

I enjoy the following psychodrama(s):
[ 5 ] The dominant talks, the submissive is silent or speaks only when spoken to
[ 4 ] Dialogue in normal language
[ 5 ] Dialogue in adapted language ("Master" and "slave")
[ 5 ] Obey rules or else
[ 4 ] Reasonable rules
[ 3 ] Unreasonable rules
[ 3 ] It is OK for the dominant to lose his temper
[ 4 ] Swearing and filthy talk
[ 5 ] Military/jail type commands
[ 5 ] Strict training
[ 5 ] Obvious and explicit role play
[ 2 ] Subtle role play
[ 3 ] I like to be persuaded, rather than commanded
[ 4 ] Make me feel guilty
[ 5 ] Make me feel cheap
[ 5 ] Make me feel used
[ 5 ] Make me feel owned
[ 3 ] Make me feel useless
[ 5 ] Objectify me
[ 2 ] The dominant must have compassion
[ 2 ] The dominant must have no compassion at all
[ 2 ] The dominant must only have compassion after the scene
Others, please specify: Physical and mental humiliation, slavery

Sex and sexuality
[ 4 ] I need to be sexually aroused when in scene
[ 2 ] I need to be sexually aroused before I enter into a scene
[ 4 ] I like as many orgasms as I can get
[ 0 ] An orgasm turns me off
[ 3 ] An orgasm must only be allowed as a reward
[ 2 ] An orgasm is a must to end the scene
[ 3 ] Orgasms are not important, but nice
[ 2 ] Orgasms are not important at all
[ 3 ] I want to beg for an orgasm first
[ 4 ] I want my sexual abilities to be stretched
[ 2 ] I want/need sex during a scene
[ 2 ] I want no sex during a scene
[ 2 ] Sex should be used to relieve the tension
Others, please specify: Sex should never be the focus of a VR scene for me, but in the right place is always welcome as part of a BDSM scene.

I love the following attributes
[ 5 ] Ropes
[ 5 ] Leather cuffs and belts
[ 5 ] Steel cuffs and chains
[ 4 ] Ball and chain
[ 5 ] Blindfold
[ 4 ] Gags
[ 5 ] Masks
[ 5 ] Nipple clamps and clothespins
[ 4 ] Whips
[ 4 ] Riding crops
[ 4 ] Canes
[ 5 ] Silk to be tied with
[ 5 ] Sex toys (vibrators, butt plugs)
[ 4 ] Needles and pins
[ 5 ] Cross, rack
[ 5 ] Bondage table
[ 5 ] Cage
[ 5 ] Sling
[ 2 ] Body bag
Others, please specify: Being bound and impaled either analy or vaginally as part of my bondage

The following scenes appeal to me:
[ 5 ] Being tied up, caressed and loved
[ 5 ] Being in a public place and dominated in a subtle way
[ 5 ] Being taken out with collar and leash
[ 5 ] Being locked up and left alone
[ 4 ] Being tied up in a comfortable position
[ 3 ] Being tied up in discomfort
[ 5 ] Being tied up and (in a sexual way) exposed
[ 4 ] Being tied up and tickled
[ 4 ] Being tied up and (sexually) teased
[ 4 ] Being tied up and whipped, flogged or caned
[ 5 ] Not being tied up, but verbally commanded into certain positions and having to maintain these
[ 3 ] Caned, flogged or whipped without being tied or cuffed
[ 2 ] Being spanked in the traditional way
[ 4 ] Rough sex/being "****d"
[ 4 ] Used as a servant
[ 5 ] Being tied and tortured
[ 2 ] Being tortured without being tied or cuffed
[ 5 ] Being used by more than one dominant
[ 5 ] Playing in combination with other couples
Others, please specify: Being prostituted, serving with other slaves, being displayed and shared in public in a non-subtle way.

Safe words and signals
[ 5 ] The dominant should establish one or more safe words
[ 1 ] When I cry, the scene should stop
[ 2 ] I should be able to communicate in plain language
[ 4 ] The dominant should be able to read my body language
[ 2 ] I want to be tested when I use a safe word or signal
[ 4 ] All activity should stop immediately when I use a safe word or signal
[ 1 ] I do not want to use any safe word at all and my signals should be ignored completely
[ 4 ] When I use a safe word or signal the dominant should establish if the scene can continue
[ 5 ] A scene should go on up to the point where I use a safe word or signal
[ 5 ] The use of safe words and signals should be avoided as much as possible
Others, please specify: n/a

To me erotic power exchange is:
[ 2 ] Something I like incidentally, just as a kick
[ 3 ] Something I like, but not too often
[ 5 ] Something I want as much as possible
[ 5 ] A lifestyle that I consider important and want to practice as much as possible
[ 4 ] A lifestyle that should be present at all times
[ 4 ] My way of life
[ 1 ] The most important thing I can think of
[ 3 ] Something I want exercised at all times and no matter what the consequences are.