Nine Reasons To Have Sex With An Older Man

Nine Reasons Why You Should Try Sex With An Older Man

Often people still consider having sex with someone more than ten to fifteen years older than them taboo. When you stretch that out to a twenty-five year or more gap then people often just say “no way”. However, times are changing thankfully and older men are not destined to staying home watching porn and jerking off. I’ll share some of my experiences and what I’ve learned over my several years of sexy fun.

First let me say if you haven’t been reading up on sexual practices and techniques whether you are young or older you should be. Thanks to modern technology there are now thousands of articles, videos, post, blogs, and pod cast that can inform you of a variety of ways to take your sex play to a new level and keep it interesting, fresh, and fun. Gone are the days where you have to sneak your older brothers Playboy and hide in the closet or find his Blue Boy magazines under the mattress and discover male on male sex.

Back in my early fifties I was watching some porn and saw an ad for a website that let adults hook up for sexy fun. My wife was away at the beach visiting with her best friend from high school. While talking to her on the phone that evening I asked if she would be interested in seeing if we could meet people for sex and a little to my surprise she said yes. After many funny incidents and some sexy ones we found a group of swingers and asked if we could join. They allowed us to join and that started a whole new adventure of learning. More on those experiences later. At our first party we discovered that we were the oldest couple in the group. Our thought was that the group may not work for us because the younger people probably wouldn’t be interested in fun with us, though; my wife was especially good looking for her age. At least that’s how I felt then and still do today even though we are no longer together.

What I learned from this group was that fun sex can be engaged in by people of multiple ages. It ended up being a wonderful experience for us for several years. We only stopped the group after we met two men who became regular partners for several more years. But I learned quite a bit from those experiences and others that I have had as a single male.

What has changed dramatically in the past few years is how you make a connection in the hookup culture of today. That’s not necessarily a bad thing. It is a lot easier and quicker to make a connection than it used to be. Consider if you had to go to a bar, dance, party, etc. to even have a chance to meet. Today you can stay home and chat with endless numbers of people and usually find someone in a short amount of time. If it’s not working for you message me and I’ll let you know some things that work for me.

Here are a few reasons why you should consider sex with an older man:

1) Experience matters.
Older men did not grow up in an era where explicit kinky sex was streamed 24 hours a day. Most had to learn from the experience of reading about it, practicing it, and then enjoying sharing it with the people they met. Don’t get me wrong I enjoy the explicit kinky sex we can easily see today but there is more to sex than the old wham bam mode. Generally older men like to kiss, touch, are more passionate, and usually obsessed with making you feel good. They have learned to take time to enjoy the experience. With experience, older men understand that it takes a women extra time to get to that level of arousal which will ultimately lead her to orgasm or that a guy who has been drinking might not cum as fast, among just a few situations that may occur during sex. Consequently, all of his attention is focused on pleasing you in multiple ways.

2) Older men understand the importance of foreplay. Often younger people forget the pleasure of the sensitive touching and licking of a fresh peach looking vagina, cute puckered ass, or smooth cock. As one female writer I read once said, “it usually goes like: Hey, hi nice to meet you, let me just poke around down here – uh, hmm, err – is it time for sexy yet?” They are clueless about how male or female bodies respond to different touches and stimulation. Older guys have already past that stage and usually enjoy lots of foreplay. Now I understand foreplay can be much more depending on what your kinks are and I enjoy some of those too.

3) Older men make you feel comfortable. Younger people that don’t have as much experience will often feel nervous and apprehensive when you first meet. Often older men know ways to make you feel relaxed and comfortable. The same techniques do not work for all people so knowing more than one way to ease people goes along with the experience older men have. This peace and ease they can create makes for a very good relationship in the bedroom. You're not worried that the older guy might be analyzing your flaws because you're damn sure he's so in awe of every single inch of you. I’ve worked with young people that are in their twenties for many years. Even though I’m in my sixties now I feel relaxed talking with young people and I think that comes across when I chat with guys in their twenties and thirties. They feel comfortable chatting and so I have had the pleasure of meeting a few for fun. Often it has been because they are new at male on male play and are comfortable experimenting with me. One guy (no names to protect the innocent) age 25 wanted to be pegged instead of fucked with a real cock. He wanted his wife to do it but she thought it was weird. I was happy to provide the service and we had a really great evening of play together. I think that all happened because he felt comfortable. The easiness created by an aware older man can make for an incredible experience sexually.

4) Older men understand the magic of toys and kinks. Older men are more comfortable trying new things. Maybe that comes along with the emotional maturity part, but younger men are either less interested (which I doubt) or just less comfortable expressing their interest in trying toys, new positions, kinks, etc. I think that is changing some in today’s culture. For women who struggle to reach orgasm, sex toys can be a godsend. Sometimes younger men are much less comfortable with introducing toys into the bedroom than older men are. I’m sure some of that comes from insecurity — thinking that they’re not good enough and that’s why their female partner or hot guy bottom wants a toy, but that’s just simply not the case. Toys and kinks are often ways to explore totally new and exciting pleasures.

5) For older men it’s less about the penis. If there’s one thing that many guys, especially the younger ones, fail to understand it’s that their penis isn’t the only organ involved in sex. And it might not even be the most important one! Lack of understanding might be why many guys struggle to turn on their partners. Hint: the brain is the most sexual organ. The way this plays out when you have sex with an older man is like this: he might have difficulty having or sustaining an erection, so he’s looking for other ways to please. He “resorts” to his hands and mouth, perhaps your favorite toy or introduces some new kink. Once the focus of sex moves away from his penis, it can move toward your pleasure or connection to just having fun. I’m not complaining about those who enjoy a hard rocking fuck. That has its place. That is what makes group play so much fun sometimes. I once played in a group of six guys, a few were young hard studs that could drive a piston through steel. I loved watching the action and still had plenty of fun concentrating on what I and others enjoyed. As a country song goes, “I’m good once as I ever was”, but I also know how to play longer with lots of other fun too.

6) Older men might know more about your body. Yes, younger guys may be more acrobatic, however older men know how to use their sexual strength to give you phenomenal sex. They understand that there is more to the female body than her boobs and clitoris and that some male nipples are just as sensitive as a woman’s. Older men who enjoy male play have probably seen all shapes and sizes of cocks, cut and uncut, various colors and shades and a variety of asses. Women often say another woman can perform oral sex better than a man and some guys swear their best blow job came from another guy. Experience in seeing, touching, and feeling other bodies plays a key role in sexual pleasure. Older guys know that different bodies respond to different touches and stimulation.

7) Most older men don’t like to play games. It's rare you're going to meet an older man who's into head games. If he's a bachelor not interested in commitment, he'll tell you upfront. If he's looking for more, he already knows what he wants, and if he's open to possibilities, he'll lay it down on the line. And that can be incredibly hot. The longer a man has lived, the more aware he is of how little time is left. This may make him more forward when pursuing you because playing games wastes time.

8) Romance can still be important even in a onetime meeting. Older men understand that it’s what happens before and also after that builds up desirability and creates the magic of sex. It’s not all about sexual intercourse — it’s about the small gestures and details. On one occasion I met a guy in his thirties. It was clear after our play he just wanted to talk. We sat for hours having a great discussion over snacks and beverages. It just made a great evening even better. Even when you are not in an actual relationship but rather something mutually beneficial an older man can make the meeting feel special. Most older men know the importance of face-to-face intimate contact that is beyond the bed.

9) Older men can handle your honesty and feedback. Often an older man has probably been married before or at least been in a long term relationship, he knows how to communicate in a constructive way. He expresses himself in a way that makes him a better partner. A good communicator goes hand in hand with a good listener. You may be surprised by how an older man is a way better listener than most younger people. Sexually most older men can handle your honesty and aren’t afraid of the idea of you giving him constructive sexual feedback and of course he is definitely not afraid of your sex toy! Some younger men get frustrated when you whisper, “Please, don’t do that,” or “Do you want to try my dildo?” An older man won’t get his feathers ruffled if he’s not doing something the way you want him to. Some people will bristle at the idea of you giving them sexual constructive feedback, but not the older man. He wants to please you and hear what he can do to make you climax. An older man gets aroused when you take the lead unless he is the dominant, lol.

Of course these are just generalities and many young people are confident and knowledgeable about sexual practices. I've met those that were a real pleasure to have fun with. Everyone has something to offer to a fun sexual encounter.

As an older man I’ve had my sexual fun and I’m not ready to give it up yet. I’ve had the privilege to meet some sexy young people while I was in my fifties and sixties and learned from each encounter. I’ve learned many things about myself and life in general meeting others both younger and my age. So give an older guy a chance at a date, dinner, or sexual encounter and he might surprise you at what a fantastic sexual experience it can be. Older men tend to understand that if their partner has a good time, they themselves are more likely to have an enjoyable experience as well.

I enjoy a variety of fun with men, couples, and groups. From a mild to a little kinky. I always like to communicate with my perspective partners to make sure we are on the same page as to what we expect from each other. Sometimes that means that a young submissive bottom wants me to take control or it can be someone who is looking for just a jackoff buddy to watch porn with. I usually play at the comfort level of my partner and have found that works well. Also, I realize that my positive attitude has given me many more experiences than I could have dreamed of.

Have fun and stay safe.
Dennis