Help- Sex (and Dating) Advice
For as crazy and weird 2020 has been, I have made some serious strides this year. I was able to pay off my student loans and have lost 30+ pounds. I’m also saving up money to get a place of my own (no more roommates!). It does feel “off” to mention the good things that have happened to me given how people have had a much worse year than I have.
That said, the one area of my life I was hoping to make progress in was my dating and sex life. Even before COVID, I was looking forward to 2020 being a big year for me in that regard. I do not have a ton of experience with either and I was excited to take some big steps in terms of dating and sex.
With women, I feel like I have tried everything to just get a single date. I have tried new things/hobbies, met new people, been more outgoing, tried online dating/apps, asked to be set up, etc. And every time I am either shot down or ignored. It is very discouraging as I feel like I’m trying everything I can think of, everything I’ve read online, and everything I’ve tried from friend/family recommendations. I would just like to go on a date; simple as that. I would love to never hear the phrase “You’re good/great/nice/cool/etc guy, but….” again.
With men, I have had a bit more luck. It seems like they’ll at least say ‘Hi’ to me. In fact, I’d say I’ve been on more dates with men than women at this point. There were two guys that I had been on a few dates with that I thought were going well. But out of the blue, I was cut off; one guy ghosted me and the other claimed he wasn’t in a place for dating (I soon saw his dating profile had been updated to ‘In a relationship’.... so that was BS). I seem to attract those types of men- ghosters and liars. Another weird thing: I seem to not be able to attract men around my age. For whatever reason, I get nothing when I reach out to men my age.
So I guess the point of this post: Does anyone have any dating advice for me? I’ll take any advice I can get because I would love to take steps in my dating and sex life. I want to explore and be adventurous. And I can’t seem to figure it out my own.
That said, the one area of my life I was hoping to make progress in was my dating and sex life. Even before COVID, I was looking forward to 2020 being a big year for me in that regard. I do not have a ton of experience with either and I was excited to take some big steps in terms of dating and sex.
With women, I feel like I have tried everything to just get a single date. I have tried new things/hobbies, met new people, been more outgoing, tried online dating/apps, asked to be set up, etc. And every time I am either shot down or ignored. It is very discouraging as I feel like I’m trying everything I can think of, everything I’ve read online, and everything I’ve tried from friend/family recommendations. I would just like to go on a date; simple as that. I would love to never hear the phrase “You’re good/great/nice/cool/etc guy, but….” again.
With men, I have had a bit more luck. It seems like they’ll at least say ‘Hi’ to me. In fact, I’d say I’ve been on more dates with men than women at this point. There were two guys that I had been on a few dates with that I thought were going well. But out of the blue, I was cut off; one guy ghosted me and the other claimed he wasn’t in a place for dating (I soon saw his dating profile had been updated to ‘In a relationship’.... so that was BS). I seem to attract those types of men- ghosters and liars. Another weird thing: I seem to not be able to attract men around my age. For whatever reason, I get nothing when I reach out to men my age.
So I guess the point of this post: Does anyone have any dating advice for me? I’ll take any advice I can get because I would love to take steps in my dating and sex life. I want to explore and be adventurous. And I can’t seem to figure it out my own.
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