Why so few African Americans into Pegging/ Strapon

I am a college educated, African American male and I have a secret, I love strapons!!! 

I am a straight male but I have secretly been into anal stimulation for years. Years ago after a girlfriend of mine and I broke up I hid away one of her old toys for my own personal use. I believe it was a 5 inch ultra skin dong from Doc Johnson and it felt just right inside of me. The toy lasted much longer than the relationship did. Years later I purchased myself a Aneros SGX Classic prostate massager from Amazon and it was one of the best purchases that I ever made on that site. I could insert that toy inside of me and masturbate for hours. It felt amazing to just walk around my apartment with it stuck up inside of me. Sitting in a chair rocking would keep me hard and leaking precum all day. It has been years now and both of those toys are now gone but my desires are still there 

The images of a strong, secure woman completely nude except for the sexy leather harness around her waist, the silicone phallus protruding outwards, beckoning towards me is something that has me walking around with a constant erection. I wish that I had a woman here telling me to get on my knees as she slowly slid the head into me and I push back begging her for more.

For years I have felt like a leper as I have scoured the Internet and searched high and low looking for groups, forums, chatrooms, anything dealing with African Americans and this lifestyle but have yet to find much of anything. It seems nearly impossible to even find many images or videos of African American men being pegged. It seems that we are not supposed to be interested in strapons and pegging, that the lifestyle is nonexistent.

I have loved strapons and pegging for years but unfortunately that makes me sometimes feel like an outcast. I don't think strapons are talked about as much in my culture because an act like that forces us to be vulnerable. For most of our lives we are told to be strong or you won't survive and I think many people carry that into the bedroom. Anything that is ruled different can seem like showing weakness. It seems like it is a cultural thing that passed on from generation to generation. Trying to tell any woman that I have dated about this fantasy has not always worked out well for me.

A difficult part for me had been in finding a woman who could be open enough to try something like pegging. Unfortunately society forces many people to hide kinks and desires like this and many women seem to be too passive to want to experience something like pegging. It can take a lot to get someone to open up and embrace there powerful and dominant side.

I really believe that there are many women that are into pegging because it does give them pleasure. Many may find pleasure from the power exchange and dominance aspects. Many women probably also find pleasure by using the right equipment (e.g. double sided dildos, vibrating dildos, vibrating harnesses, etc). I would never want the women that I love to engage in something that wasn't also bringing her some form of enjoyment and pleasure. I see strapons as only one small piece of a healthy sexual relationship, one in which both partners are able to receive pleasure and find happiness.


Some reasons why I love strapons and pegging:

1. There are so many nerve endings in and around the anus that it makes touch extremely pleasurable and the prostate gland is considered to be the male G spot. Massage of the prostate feels exquisite and orgasms are extremely intense.

2. There is something very, very sexy about a woman in lingerie, heels and a harness and dildo around her waist. Very visually exciting.

3. Doing something that many feel is too risque and extreme for them is exciting, it taps into my extreme nature and adventurous spirit.

4. It is nice to occasionally give up power to the woman that I am with. To have her feel, strong powerful and in control.

5. Pegging can increase intimacy, increase understanding and create a deepening of the relationship. You can both learn what it feels like to have sex from the other side of the penetration.

6. Pegging can build trust. You have to really trust a person to mention the fantasy of pegging to them and trust in them even more to actually let them peg you. You are at your most vulnerable so you have to trust in them completely.

I love strapons!!!!