Random Femdom Thoughts
Depending on who you ask (or what study you read), there are anywhere between 3 and 100 submissive men for every dominant woman. It is my belief that the ratio is changing as more women are discovering their "inner Domme", but dominant women are still very rare and precious.
I am not speaking about female kinksters who dabble in dominant roles for fetish fulfillment. Most women will play a little spanky-spank, or role play a dominant scenario in the bedroom (hint: you have to have the courage to ask them). If that is what you are looking for, then you can probably easily find someone to scratch your itch. Maybe even your wife.
And if you're a masochist, you can also find women who beat you for a price. Some are dominant and some are not. A prostitute with a whip does not necessarily make a Dominatrix. I have met a few professionals who are simply good actresses and do it for the money. Men pay for the fantasy, and the women are all too happy to oblige when financial compensation is right.
I receive so many emails from sub males who are looking for this kind of play, and they ask me where they can find a pro Domme in their area. They don't really want to give up control beyond their fantasies, and they want the submissive experience kept in isolation away from the other parts of their lives. Perhaps they are even alpha males in their career and family roles. I see these kinds of men more as bottoms than truly submissive. "Baby, I love when you wear those black leather boots. I want to be your slave and lick them clean." This is fetish role play, not really D/s.
We can go on ad nauseum about what defines dominance and submission, but for me it basically boils down to power and control. The concept is simple. Dommes feel most comfortable when in control, and subs feel best giving up control. The degree of control defines the level of D/s. All the other kinks and such are just window dressing, and it's the giving up control part that I find is most alluring.
Bottoms, subs, and slaves are not interchangeable terms. Real slaves are also rare and precious. I have had slave aspirations all my life, but in truth I reserve a small level of control in my relationships, and it's something I hate about myself. Sometimes I really wish I could get over that hump, but moving from submissive to slave is a gigantic leap. No choices, no rights, giving up all control 24/7/365. It's easier to pay a pro and then go back to the life I'm accustomed to.
However, in the back of my mind I've always wondered if I could take that step with the right Domme. Could I move in baby steps slowly surrendering bits of independence until all freedoms were gone and I was completely dependent on my owner? As ironic as it seems, in my mind the life of a slave sounds quite liberating. I can tell you from knowing several couples in TPE female led relationships, these are the happiest people on earth.
To be continued....
I am not speaking about female kinksters who dabble in dominant roles for fetish fulfillment. Most women will play a little spanky-spank, or role play a dominant scenario in the bedroom (hint: you have to have the courage to ask them). If that is what you are looking for, then you can probably easily find someone to scratch your itch. Maybe even your wife.
And if you're a masochist, you can also find women who beat you for a price. Some are dominant and some are not. A prostitute with a whip does not necessarily make a Dominatrix. I have met a few professionals who are simply good actresses and do it for the money. Men pay for the fantasy, and the women are all too happy to oblige when financial compensation is right.
I receive so many emails from sub males who are looking for this kind of play, and they ask me where they can find a pro Domme in their area. They don't really want to give up control beyond their fantasies, and they want the submissive experience kept in isolation away from the other parts of their lives. Perhaps they are even alpha males in their career and family roles. I see these kinds of men more as bottoms than truly submissive. "Baby, I love when you wear those black leather boots. I want to be your slave and lick them clean." This is fetish role play, not really D/s.
We can go on ad nauseum about what defines dominance and submission, but for me it basically boils down to power and control. The concept is simple. Dommes feel most comfortable when in control, and subs feel best giving up control. The degree of control defines the level of D/s. All the other kinks and such are just window dressing, and it's the giving up control part that I find is most alluring.
Bottoms, subs, and slaves are not interchangeable terms. Real slaves are also rare and precious. I have had slave aspirations all my life, but in truth I reserve a small level of control in my relationships, and it's something I hate about myself. Sometimes I really wish I could get over that hump, but moving from submissive to slave is a gigantic leap. No choices, no rights, giving up all control 24/7/365. It's easier to pay a pro and then go back to the life I'm accustomed to.
However, in the back of my mind I've always wondered if I could take that step with the right Domme. Could I move in baby steps slowly surrendering bits of independence until all freedoms were gone and I was completely dependent on my owner? As ironic as it seems, in my mind the life of a slave sounds quite liberating. I can tell you from knowing several couples in TPE female led relationships, these are the happiest people on earth.
To be continued....
il y a 4 ans
