Female sexual motives explained
After studying human sexuality for many years it has become inarguable to me that a cuckold relationship (in which the wife engages in sexual activity with a variety of men while her husband remains faithful) is most compatible with basic human evolutionary make up. It is straying from this evolutionarily grounded human bonding relationship that has produced such misunderstandings and conflict between the sexes.
At the very base of this principle is the understanding of a woman’s psychological need for a variety of sex partner’s. Psychologically, women are hardwired differently than men. A woman has a dual sex drive. The first is centered on finding a mate for life to help support her and her offspring. This is why (and when) love is such an important part of a women’s sexual desire. The second is a desire to obtain a variety of the best genetic material to produce the best c***dren. This second desire begins to grow once a woman has found her life mate and grows stronger as time with him progresses. Eventually, this later and more powerful drive overpowers her sexual desire for her life mate. This is why a woman’s sexual desire for her husband diminishes over time. At the same time her sexual desire for other men is increasing. Often this desire for other men becomes so strong she cannot deny it. This does not make her immoral or mean that she no longer loves her husband. It is simply part of her genetic code.
It is well known that women don’t reach her sexual peak until they are in their thirties, while men peak by the time they are twenty. In a typical marriage, a wife is generally younger than her husband or the same age. As a result, a woman’s increasing sexual appetite, do to her biologically age based sex drive, gives her greater sexual needs than her husband. She needs more sexual encounters, longer sexual encounters and more orgasms than her spouse. Her older or same age husband, on the other hand, wants sex far less than his wife, oftentimes with troubles such as cannot reach hard erection, lasting only a few minutes before he reaches orgasm, and then, no longer interested in sex, leaves his wife unsatisfied and frustrated. As a marriage continues this discrepancy in sexual needs increases dramatically, usually to the breaking point of a wife secretly finding a lover or lovers outside the marriage.
Compounding this is that nature has not only given women a two prong and exponentially stronger sex drive and the need for a variety of sex partners, it has also given women the ability to experience a far greater quantity, intensity, and variety of sexual pleasure and orgasm than men. Women are guided to have sex and bond with the provider by having nurturing, loving and affectionate feelings as a motivators and as rewards. Likewise are women guided to have sex with other men toquire genetic material by having motivators and rewards such as spontaneous arousal and intense orgasms. Thse are nature’s ways of motivating a woman to seek out sexual activity and controlling the genetic choice as well.
As a result, women can experience a wide range and intensity of sexual pleasure and diversity of orgasm. Besides the pleasure and orgasms derived from manual, oral and coital stimulation of a woman’s clitoris, all three of which feel distinctly different, a woman can reach a completely different sensation of pleasure and a completely different orgasm from the stimulation of her g-spot by a well endowed man. A woman can even reach orgasm by proper stimulation of her nipples if she has been brought to a state of intense clitoral arousal.
Stimulation of her nipples and clitoris at the same time will give her a yet another unique intense orgasm. Her ultimate height of pleasure is found in oral or manual titillation of her clitoris while simultaneously having her g-spot stimulated. It is interesting that this is best accomplished by the use of multiple sexual partners, suggesting nature’s preference for male, female, male couplings. Finally, the crowning pinnacle of a woman’s sexual superiority is her ability to have a multiple orgasm and full body orgasmic experiences.
Men, on the other hand, are far simpler sexually. Stimulate their glans (the little patch of skin at the front of the penis just below it’s head) and they ejaculate. Furthermore, men can get nearly the same level of satisfaction from masturbating as the do completing a sex act with a woman. For women, masturbation will give them only temporary relief. Women need to have sex with a partner to be satisfied and preferably with separate partners for separate areas of satisfaction.
The male also has a much simpler sex drive than a woman. He simply wants to mate with any female he finds desirable. The longer he is denied sex, the stronger his desire grows and the criterion by which he finds a woman desirable lowers. Since it is the woman who decides if he will be allowed to have sex with her or not, his desire for her sexually is also linked to the desire for her approval. As he becomes more interested in her the desire to please her as a way to get sex can become overwhelming for him. That is why you will often see men acting foolishly in front of females they desire, even though they have no chance to have sex with them. That is also why, once married, a man will begin to take his wife for granted; now that he has easy availability of sex from her, she becomes less desirable to him.
One might think that this is a good argument for having an open marriage in which both a wife and her husband find sexual partners outside their marriage but it is not. The idea of open marriage assumes the erroneous notion that men need a variety of sex partners. While all evidence indicates that a married woman both physiologically and psychologically does need a variety of sexual partners, a married man does not. The genetic code that drives a man is the thrill of pursuit and competition, not the need for variety. Husbands in clinical studies who’s desire for their wives have waned and who’s interest have turned to other women have been completely turned around when their wives begin using arousal and denial techniques on them. These techniques instill uncertainty in the husband as to whether he will be allowed to complete a sex act with her or not. Time after time, in study after study, these husband’s desires have been focused back to their wives exclusively, losing all interest in other women. The wives in these studies were even able to vary their husband’s level of interest through increasing or decreasing their application of arousal and denial techniques. It was further found that when these same wives reverted back to traditional sexual practices with their husbands, their husbands began to loose interest again and began to again look at other women as possible sex partners.
An unlikely place further confirmation of the appropriateness of cuckolding in human bonding relationships was discovered in the findings of primate studies. In one study, researchers found three anatomical influencers of fidelity in primates. One was the physical size difference between the sexes. The other was the male’s ratio of penis and testicle size to body mass.
It was found that in those species of primates where the female was considerably larger than the male, the female would have many sexual partners and bond with none. As female/male size became closer, the female would bond with one male. This male would remain faithful to her, but she would continue to have sex with non-bonded males.
The second influencer the researchers discovered was the ratio of penis and testicle size to body mass. The smaller the penis and testicles to body size, the more bonded males were restricted to activity with only their mate, and the more the females would engage in sexual activity with a variety of non-bonded males. Within these groups, females would generally bond with males with smaller genitalia and engage in sexual activity with better-endowed, non-bonded males. The most common activities between females and their mates were grooming and eating, and between females and males other than their mates were sexual play and intercourse. Neither mated nor non-mated females would engage in sexual activity with bonded males who were not their own mates. The most frequent sexual activity of bonded males was masturbation.
This study particularly intrigued me because it’s findings correlated so closely with my own experiences. I have assisted many couples in beginning and maintaining cuckold relationships. Among my patients, husbands with smaller penises were not only more agreeable to being cuckolded, but would even sometimes suggest it. These very enlightened, lesser-endowed, husbands were keenly aware of their inability to satisfy their wives sexually. By accepting their wives engaging in sex with other men they were relieved of the pressure to try to fulfill the impossible and instead receiving immense arousal to improve their chances in the sperm competition.
The above made me think, that just as well as with all the other groups, also the faithfull small testicled bonded males fullfill the urges they have and have their rewards as well. And these urges have kept their genes in the gene pool just as well. Maybe you are not hurting him but fulfilling him just as well you are fulfilling yourself.
A quote:
Why do I cuckold my husband?
The politically correct answer would be: “My husband is a cuckold because I allowed him his fantasy”
The answer is of course politically correct, and also the excuse that allowed me to begin doing it, but I have to admit, the bottom line is that I make my husband a cuckold because I like it.
I started to get aroused by thinking of having sex with other men, and that in possibly doing so it would not be a secret or betrayal. From there the idea soon over took me. The benefits are undisputable.
I love making love with a man, and I love that my husband does not have the right to have the same privileges as I have. I admit, I love meeting men, the whole process from the beginning of the meeting until the conclusion. I love my husband and I keep him up to date of things, because I love his support and his deepening submission, I love it when he feels the humiliation, and because I think it’s the role of man in a marriage. It is part of who I am, what I believe. It is not a game but a way of life, and a statement.
As I said, I love the whole process. I like to flirt, seduce, get seduced by a beautiful man. I like to be asked out on a date. I like to tease my husband about my encounters. I like it when my husband helps me prepare for a new appointment.
I like to go out. I love the game, and to try out a man. I like the kiss (the first kiss!), the first caress, to be in his arms, and yes, I love to see the body and all for the first time. And the sex, oh boy! The orgasms with my husband were rare and forced leaving me weary afterwards; instead with a stranger the atmosphere, the freedom and the power, the spontaneous of situations exhilarate everything and sex is like from another planet. I wet myself just by thinking and satisfaction from the act is immense.
I like to see my husband before and after, shy, tormented, or otherwise confused. I love this power I feel, and I like what it gives me, and above all I like what it does to my husband.
And I can tell you, you do not know how it feels to really control a man until he is a cuckold, your cuckold, who knows and who is kept chaste throughout the process.
The cuckolding process is so much more than having sex. It is liberating and by allowing it my husband accepts his subservient position. It is a total power exchange of the husband submitting to the dominant female.
It doesn't happen because my husband craves for it. I would have stopped after the first try. I continued because it increases my pleasure, and because I feel like it. I enjoy every minute of it. Meanwhile, my husband exists to serve me. His love has become unconditional and devoted. Everything is for my pleasure, and the frustration of my husband forms part of the pleasure.
It was my husband who brought it up as a fantasy to perform in bedroom. I had earlier blocked such thoughts. Before I decided to give it a try, I told my husband that if I start to think and speak of other men sexually, I might like it and it might change me. He said it will never go that far, but I already knew what I want.
At the very base of this principle is the understanding of a woman’s psychological need for a variety of sex partner’s. Psychologically, women are hardwired differently than men. A woman has a dual sex drive. The first is centered on finding a mate for life to help support her and her offspring. This is why (and when) love is such an important part of a women’s sexual desire. The second is a desire to obtain a variety of the best genetic material to produce the best c***dren. This second desire begins to grow once a woman has found her life mate and grows stronger as time with him progresses. Eventually, this later and more powerful drive overpowers her sexual desire for her life mate. This is why a woman’s sexual desire for her husband diminishes over time. At the same time her sexual desire for other men is increasing. Often this desire for other men becomes so strong she cannot deny it. This does not make her immoral or mean that she no longer loves her husband. It is simply part of her genetic code.
It is well known that women don’t reach her sexual peak until they are in their thirties, while men peak by the time they are twenty. In a typical marriage, a wife is generally younger than her husband or the same age. As a result, a woman’s increasing sexual appetite, do to her biologically age based sex drive, gives her greater sexual needs than her husband. She needs more sexual encounters, longer sexual encounters and more orgasms than her spouse. Her older or same age husband, on the other hand, wants sex far less than his wife, oftentimes with troubles such as cannot reach hard erection, lasting only a few minutes before he reaches orgasm, and then, no longer interested in sex, leaves his wife unsatisfied and frustrated. As a marriage continues this discrepancy in sexual needs increases dramatically, usually to the breaking point of a wife secretly finding a lover or lovers outside the marriage.
Compounding this is that nature has not only given women a two prong and exponentially stronger sex drive and the need for a variety of sex partners, it has also given women the ability to experience a far greater quantity, intensity, and variety of sexual pleasure and orgasm than men. Women are guided to have sex and bond with the provider by having nurturing, loving and affectionate feelings as a motivators and as rewards. Likewise are women guided to have sex with other men toquire genetic material by having motivators and rewards such as spontaneous arousal and intense orgasms. Thse are nature’s ways of motivating a woman to seek out sexual activity and controlling the genetic choice as well.
As a result, women can experience a wide range and intensity of sexual pleasure and diversity of orgasm. Besides the pleasure and orgasms derived from manual, oral and coital stimulation of a woman’s clitoris, all three of which feel distinctly different, a woman can reach a completely different sensation of pleasure and a completely different orgasm from the stimulation of her g-spot by a well endowed man. A woman can even reach orgasm by proper stimulation of her nipples if she has been brought to a state of intense clitoral arousal.
Stimulation of her nipples and clitoris at the same time will give her a yet another unique intense orgasm. Her ultimate height of pleasure is found in oral or manual titillation of her clitoris while simultaneously having her g-spot stimulated. It is interesting that this is best accomplished by the use of multiple sexual partners, suggesting nature’s preference for male, female, male couplings. Finally, the crowning pinnacle of a woman’s sexual superiority is her ability to have a multiple orgasm and full body orgasmic experiences.
Men, on the other hand, are far simpler sexually. Stimulate their glans (the little patch of skin at the front of the penis just below it’s head) and they ejaculate. Furthermore, men can get nearly the same level of satisfaction from masturbating as the do completing a sex act with a woman. For women, masturbation will give them only temporary relief. Women need to have sex with a partner to be satisfied and preferably with separate partners for separate areas of satisfaction.
The male also has a much simpler sex drive than a woman. He simply wants to mate with any female he finds desirable. The longer he is denied sex, the stronger his desire grows and the criterion by which he finds a woman desirable lowers. Since it is the woman who decides if he will be allowed to have sex with her or not, his desire for her sexually is also linked to the desire for her approval. As he becomes more interested in her the desire to please her as a way to get sex can become overwhelming for him. That is why you will often see men acting foolishly in front of females they desire, even though they have no chance to have sex with them. That is also why, once married, a man will begin to take his wife for granted; now that he has easy availability of sex from her, she becomes less desirable to him.
One might think that this is a good argument for having an open marriage in which both a wife and her husband find sexual partners outside their marriage but it is not. The idea of open marriage assumes the erroneous notion that men need a variety of sex partners. While all evidence indicates that a married woman both physiologically and psychologically does need a variety of sexual partners, a married man does not. The genetic code that drives a man is the thrill of pursuit and competition, not the need for variety. Husbands in clinical studies who’s desire for their wives have waned and who’s interest have turned to other women have been completely turned around when their wives begin using arousal and denial techniques on them. These techniques instill uncertainty in the husband as to whether he will be allowed to complete a sex act with her or not. Time after time, in study after study, these husband’s desires have been focused back to their wives exclusively, losing all interest in other women. The wives in these studies were even able to vary their husband’s level of interest through increasing or decreasing their application of arousal and denial techniques. It was further found that when these same wives reverted back to traditional sexual practices with their husbands, their husbands began to loose interest again and began to again look at other women as possible sex partners.
An unlikely place further confirmation of the appropriateness of cuckolding in human bonding relationships was discovered in the findings of primate studies. In one study, researchers found three anatomical influencers of fidelity in primates. One was the physical size difference between the sexes. The other was the male’s ratio of penis and testicle size to body mass.
It was found that in those species of primates where the female was considerably larger than the male, the female would have many sexual partners and bond with none. As female/male size became closer, the female would bond with one male. This male would remain faithful to her, but she would continue to have sex with non-bonded males.
The second influencer the researchers discovered was the ratio of penis and testicle size to body mass. The smaller the penis and testicles to body size, the more bonded males were restricted to activity with only their mate, and the more the females would engage in sexual activity with a variety of non-bonded males. Within these groups, females would generally bond with males with smaller genitalia and engage in sexual activity with better-endowed, non-bonded males. The most common activities between females and their mates were grooming and eating, and between females and males other than their mates were sexual play and intercourse. Neither mated nor non-mated females would engage in sexual activity with bonded males who were not their own mates. The most frequent sexual activity of bonded males was masturbation.
This study particularly intrigued me because it’s findings correlated so closely with my own experiences. I have assisted many couples in beginning and maintaining cuckold relationships. Among my patients, husbands with smaller penises were not only more agreeable to being cuckolded, but would even sometimes suggest it. These very enlightened, lesser-endowed, husbands were keenly aware of their inability to satisfy their wives sexually. By accepting their wives engaging in sex with other men they were relieved of the pressure to try to fulfill the impossible and instead receiving immense arousal to improve their chances in the sperm competition.
The above made me think, that just as well as with all the other groups, also the faithfull small testicled bonded males fullfill the urges they have and have their rewards as well. And these urges have kept their genes in the gene pool just as well. Maybe you are not hurting him but fulfilling him just as well you are fulfilling yourself.
A quote:
Why do I cuckold my husband?
The politically correct answer would be: “My husband is a cuckold because I allowed him his fantasy”
The answer is of course politically correct, and also the excuse that allowed me to begin doing it, but I have to admit, the bottom line is that I make my husband a cuckold because I like it.
I started to get aroused by thinking of having sex with other men, and that in possibly doing so it would not be a secret or betrayal. From there the idea soon over took me. The benefits are undisputable.
I love making love with a man, and I love that my husband does not have the right to have the same privileges as I have. I admit, I love meeting men, the whole process from the beginning of the meeting until the conclusion. I love my husband and I keep him up to date of things, because I love his support and his deepening submission, I love it when he feels the humiliation, and because I think it’s the role of man in a marriage. It is part of who I am, what I believe. It is not a game but a way of life, and a statement.
As I said, I love the whole process. I like to flirt, seduce, get seduced by a beautiful man. I like to be asked out on a date. I like to tease my husband about my encounters. I like it when my husband helps me prepare for a new appointment.
I like to go out. I love the game, and to try out a man. I like the kiss (the first kiss!), the first caress, to be in his arms, and yes, I love to see the body and all for the first time. And the sex, oh boy! The orgasms with my husband were rare and forced leaving me weary afterwards; instead with a stranger the atmosphere, the freedom and the power, the spontaneous of situations exhilarate everything and sex is like from another planet. I wet myself just by thinking and satisfaction from the act is immense.
I like to see my husband before and after, shy, tormented, or otherwise confused. I love this power I feel, and I like what it gives me, and above all I like what it does to my husband.
And I can tell you, you do not know how it feels to really control a man until he is a cuckold, your cuckold, who knows and who is kept chaste throughout the process.
The cuckolding process is so much more than having sex. It is liberating and by allowing it my husband accepts his subservient position. It is a total power exchange of the husband submitting to the dominant female.
It doesn't happen because my husband craves for it. I would have stopped after the first try. I continued because it increases my pleasure, and because I feel like it. I enjoy every minute of it. Meanwhile, my husband exists to serve me. His love has become unconditional and devoted. Everything is for my pleasure, and the frustration of my husband forms part of the pleasure.
It was my husband who brought it up as a fantasy to perform in bedroom. I had earlier blocked such thoughts. Before I decided to give it a try, I told my husband that if I start to think and speak of other men sexually, I might like it and it might change me. He said it will never go that far, but I already knew what I want.
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