So you got your heart smashed — now what? I’m not going to sugarcoat it. Break ups feel like emotional biohazards. One minute you’re thinking about what color to paint the baby’s room, and the next you’re ugly crying into a pint … [Read more...] about Get Your Confidence Back After A Breakup (Even When You Feel Like Trash)
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Shifting Stigma In Sexuality & Something Positive For Positive People
Erving Goffman defines stigma as the situation of the individual who is disqualified from full social acceptance. Since 2017, I’ve been operating under the definition of stigma just being stereotypes of people living with herpes … [Read more...] about Shifting Stigma In Sexuality & Something Positive For Positive People
Podcast: Causes Of Erectile Dysfunction
In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Laurie discusses the causes of erectile dysfunction. You'll also hear answers to listener-submitted questions, and get Dr. Laurie's take on "Sex in the News." … [Read more...] about Podcast: Causes Of Erectile Dysfunction
Who Owns Pleasure?
By Madison Moore and Jessie Ford Unpacking Concepts of Pleasure, Power and Liberation Sexual freedom is often packaged as a Western export, but what if the real revolution is happening elsewhere? Looking beyond Eurocentric … [Read more...] about Who Owns Pleasure?
The Impact Of Micro-Cheating
Scenario: A wife discovers that her husband has been regularly engaging with posts on Instagram—posts of hot women. She discovers many of these, involving direct messages of a flirtatious nature. She feels betrayed, and now … [Read more...] about The Impact Of Micro-Cheating
7 Myths About Masturbation—And The Truth About Solo Sex
Surely you know it won’t cause insanity or grow hair on your palms. But judging by the questions I’ve received on my site, GreatSexAfter40.com, many folks are poorly informed about masturbation. … [Read more...] about 7 Myths About Masturbation—And The Truth About Solo Sex
12 Reflections From 12 Years With Herpes
On March 23, 2013, I woke up with body aches, chills, and a fever. And when I wrote that sentence, it was March 23, 2025. Here I am a week later, and I’m in such a different place than I was when I sat down to write about … [Read more...] about 12 Reflections From 12 Years With Herpes
ADHD And Its Effect On Sex And Relationships
Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a condition that affects how a person thinks, behaves, and feels, primarily causing problems with focus, activity levels, and impulse control (American Psychiatric Association, … [Read more...] about ADHD And Its Effect On Sex And Relationships
Podcast: “Mate Poaching”
In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Laurie discusses the subject of "mate poaching." You'll also hear answers to listener-submitted questions, and get Dr. Laurie's take on "Sex in the News." … [Read more...] about Podcast: “Mate Poaching”
Sex & Performance Anxiety In 2025
Performance anxiety is hitting harder than ever, and it’s something a lot of men are quietly dealing with. Let’s face it—modern life isn’t doing us any favors and many men are having less sex and feeling less confident in the … [Read more...] about Sex & Performance Anxiety In 2025
Tinder Fatigue
So many people these days are expressing their disappointment and frustration with the whole dating scene, especially when it comes to using dating apps. “Tinder fatigue” is the general term now being used to refer to the feeling … [Read more...] about Tinder Fatigue
Podcast: The Orgasm Gap
In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Laurie discusses the orgasm gap. You'll also hear answers to listener submitted questions, and get Dr. Laurie's take on "Sex in the News." … [Read more...] about Podcast: The Orgasm Gap