Do u know ur Role??
Seriously,....
Over the years, I have seen subs casually throw themselves out there and then wonder why nothing happens, or spend a lot of time sending or getting one-liner responses or just cock pics or after getting with a āDomā they only get used for a quick fuck or 3 and/or discarded for the next conquest.
Submissives, here are two of the most valuable questions you need to ask urself:
1. What kind of service am I willing to offer?
2. What skills, talents and qualities do I possess that could benefit Him?
I actually know what Im worth, do u really know ur worth enough to know what ur role is? I, for one, am not going to waste my time anymore on anyone who acts like I should be grateful that they are interested, or in something I saw in ur profile that appealed to Me enough to write to u.
As a sub, and even more acutely as a slave, - u are NOT My equal. No matter how good u look or how good of a fuck or how sexy u think u are. It matters not even if u are financially better off, or have a higher level of education than I haveā¦
Just open any dictionary and look up the EXACT definitions of āDominantā, and the EXACT definition of āsubmissiveā or āslaveā. Match the definitions against each other for the differences and define and understand those differences. Does anywhere in those definitions does the word āequalā or its derivatives appear anywhere? NO, IT DOES NOT.
Lets just get this all straightened out and clear, the person exerting control is called the Dominant; the one being controlled is the submissive. Parties negotiate the degree and limits of the control being exercised. Submission is not taken from an unwilling person but is given as part of a negotiated exchange of power between the two partners.
Soā¦.under no definitive circumstances or subsequently by definition are u equal to a Dominant. - u are not,ā¦quite plain & very pretty darn simple.
Now that doesnāt mean I get to run u over or act like I already own u from the start, but u acting like Im supposed to act different (not Dominant, like Wwe are the same.) than I am makes no sense and gives u, - a false sense of who Wwe are to be to each other.
u want a 24/7/365 Master, then thatās who I should be, upfront and honestly. u should be ur submissive/slave self as well and just as much upfront, honestly AND respectfully.
Once again this not domination during a simple discussion of mutual interests and compatibility, but u as a sub/slave finding out from the very beginning if u have an actual Dom ur talking to, or just an asshole disguising themselves as a Dominant. Or worse yet, a vanilla guy just looking for another way to find some warm body to fuck. If ur going to get all insulted or put off because a Dom refers to u as āuā and u think ur demanding to be referred to as āyouā makes a Dom seem more intelligent to u, or not lazy, is missing the mark for why ur searching for a real Dominant in the first place. And thatās for u to be put in ur place. The place u know u, as a submissive, belong.
Itās time for u to simply know ur damn role.
My challenge to all of you submissiveās & slaves out there, is making a better effort at and to, knowing ur role.
What exactly does āknow ur roleā mean? Let me break it down for u.
ur role is what you are willing to offer to a (and in this case, Blackā¦) Dominant. This is something that should be offered up front whereas a Dominant would know what ur intentions are and what assets u have, to bring to the table (to Me.) as the Master of this potential relationship.
Show Me u know ur role. And the respect u desire in the beginning will be easily enabled in ur negotiations of compatibility and if u have a meeting of the minds, ur eventual surrender to ur Dominant.
Let Me also clear up an issue with many of u. To start, hereās a definition for u.
GIFT: A thing given willingly to someone without payment; a present.
Notice a āgiftā is someTHING, ā¦ā¦.. āA thing.ā
Not someone thatās given TO someone. A gift is an (external) thing thatās given willingly to someone without payment, a present.
So when u are telling Me that ur submission is a gift, ur telling Me that ur submission is an external thing that is not of urself that u donāt have an investment in other than what ur willing or feeling like handing Me.
By contrast, see the word āsurrenderā
intransitive verb: To give oneself up into the power of another: To YIELD
Notice again, there is not an āequalā component to it. And again, its not an impersonal thing. To the contrary, its VERY and intensely personal. Remember this is an exchange of POWER hereā¦. THE TOTAL POWER EXCHANGE is what this is all about.
I as Dominant Exert My power,ā¦.u as submissive, relinquish and SURRENDER ur power.
Personally, this IS MY 24/7/365 life as a Master. I as a Dominant, am not āgiftingā u any part of Me. I, as Master, am accepting a RESPONSEABLITY of controlling another human being and shaping that human being into a satisfactory addition to MY life. It takes weeks, months, years of training to getting subs/slaves into being the assets to Oour lives Wwe need u to be. Surrendering and submitting to the respect Wwe as True Doms deserve, and u will get the benefits & rewards u earn.
If ur only giving a external part of u,ā¦a āgiftā. while u expect ur Dom to give more of Themselves than u areā¦then thatās not going to work well from the very beginning. The trust necessary to form a real bond is made much more difficult than it ever really has to be.
u pitch a hissy because ur not happy or u keep running into āfakesā & āwannabeāsā and u lament the lack of ārealā Doms on the websites u chase after Doms on. Or u for some lame reason expect Doms to chase u on,ā¦.. And u refuse to look at the common denomination hereā¦.its u.
Yes uā¦...u donāt know ur own role in this lifestyle.
āGiftingā ur submission is not what u should be doing,ā¦āGiftingā is not ur role. SURRENDERING to a Dominant IS ur role.
u need to change ur mindset and how u look at this lifestyle. Again, know ur own role.
If u arenāt as dedicated & real as the Dom u seek, guess what? ur only going to attract or appeal to the very fakes & wannabes u arenāt wanting to be with long-term. Or what Real Doms there are, - will not deal with u for long.
So to recapā¦..
1.) KNOW UR ROLE. ā know what u have to offer the Dom u seek.
2.) STOP āGiftingā ur Submission, instead, - SURRENDER Within the honest Negotiation of POWER EXCHANGE With ur Dominant.
Hopefully I have made Myself clear on this post and the other what at least I expect of u to start with and I also hope that u take away from these two posts a way to live this lifestyle better than maybe u have before.....
Yours in the struggle,
its..SIR...to u
Over the years, I have seen subs casually throw themselves out there and then wonder why nothing happens, or spend a lot of time sending or getting one-liner responses or just cock pics or after getting with a āDomā they only get used for a quick fuck or 3 and/or discarded for the next conquest.
Submissives, here are two of the most valuable questions you need to ask urself:
1. What kind of service am I willing to offer?
2. What skills, talents and qualities do I possess that could benefit Him?
I actually know what Im worth, do u really know ur worth enough to know what ur role is? I, for one, am not going to waste my time anymore on anyone who acts like I should be grateful that they are interested, or in something I saw in ur profile that appealed to Me enough to write to u.
As a sub, and even more acutely as a slave, - u are NOT My equal. No matter how good u look or how good of a fuck or how sexy u think u are. It matters not even if u are financially better off, or have a higher level of education than I haveā¦
Just open any dictionary and look up the EXACT definitions of āDominantā, and the EXACT definition of āsubmissiveā or āslaveā. Match the definitions against each other for the differences and define and understand those differences. Does anywhere in those definitions does the word āequalā or its derivatives appear anywhere? NO, IT DOES NOT.
Lets just get this all straightened out and clear, the person exerting control is called the Dominant; the one being controlled is the submissive. Parties negotiate the degree and limits of the control being exercised. Submission is not taken from an unwilling person but is given as part of a negotiated exchange of power between the two partners.
Soā¦.under no definitive circumstances or subsequently by definition are u equal to a Dominant. - u are not,ā¦quite plain & very pretty darn simple.
Now that doesnāt mean I get to run u over or act like I already own u from the start, but u acting like Im supposed to act different (not Dominant, like Wwe are the same.) than I am makes no sense and gives u, - a false sense of who Wwe are to be to each other.
u want a 24/7/365 Master, then thatās who I should be, upfront and honestly. u should be ur submissive/slave self as well and just as much upfront, honestly AND respectfully.
Once again this not domination during a simple discussion of mutual interests and compatibility, but u as a sub/slave finding out from the very beginning if u have an actual Dom ur talking to, or just an asshole disguising themselves as a Dominant. Or worse yet, a vanilla guy just looking for another way to find some warm body to fuck. If ur going to get all insulted or put off because a Dom refers to u as āuā and u think ur demanding to be referred to as āyouā makes a Dom seem more intelligent to u, or not lazy, is missing the mark for why ur searching for a real Dominant in the first place. And thatās for u to be put in ur place. The place u know u, as a submissive, belong.
Itās time for u to simply know ur damn role.
My challenge to all of you submissiveās & slaves out there, is making a better effort at and to, knowing ur role.
What exactly does āknow ur roleā mean? Let me break it down for u.
ur role is what you are willing to offer to a (and in this case, Blackā¦) Dominant. This is something that should be offered up front whereas a Dominant would know what ur intentions are and what assets u have, to bring to the table (to Me.) as the Master of this potential relationship.
Show Me u know ur role. And the respect u desire in the beginning will be easily enabled in ur negotiations of compatibility and if u have a meeting of the minds, ur eventual surrender to ur Dominant.
Let Me also clear up an issue with many of u. To start, hereās a definition for u.
GIFT: A thing given willingly to someone without payment; a present.
Notice a āgiftā is someTHING, ā¦ā¦.. āA thing.ā
Not someone thatās given TO someone. A gift is an (external) thing thatās given willingly to someone without payment, a present.
So when u are telling Me that ur submission is a gift, ur telling Me that ur submission is an external thing that is not of urself that u donāt have an investment in other than what ur willing or feeling like handing Me.
By contrast, see the word āsurrenderā
intransitive verb: To give oneself up into the power of another: To YIELD
Notice again, there is not an āequalā component to it. And again, its not an impersonal thing. To the contrary, its VERY and intensely personal. Remember this is an exchange of POWER hereā¦. THE TOTAL POWER EXCHANGE is what this is all about.
I as Dominant Exert My power,ā¦.u as submissive, relinquish and SURRENDER ur power.
Personally, this IS MY 24/7/365 life as a Master. I as a Dominant, am not āgiftingā u any part of Me. I, as Master, am accepting a RESPONSEABLITY of controlling another human being and shaping that human being into a satisfactory addition to MY life. It takes weeks, months, years of training to getting subs/slaves into being the assets to Oour lives Wwe need u to be. Surrendering and submitting to the respect Wwe as True Doms deserve, and u will get the benefits & rewards u earn.
If ur only giving a external part of u,ā¦a āgiftā. while u expect ur Dom to give more of Themselves than u areā¦then thatās not going to work well from the very beginning. The trust necessary to form a real bond is made much more difficult than it ever really has to be.
u pitch a hissy because ur not happy or u keep running into āfakesā & āwannabeāsā and u lament the lack of ārealā Doms on the websites u chase after Doms on. Or u for some lame reason expect Doms to chase u on,ā¦.. And u refuse to look at the common denomination hereā¦.its u.
Yes uā¦...u donāt know ur own role in this lifestyle.
āGiftingā ur submission is not what u should be doing,ā¦āGiftingā is not ur role. SURRENDERING to a Dominant IS ur role.
u need to change ur mindset and how u look at this lifestyle. Again, know ur own role.
If u arenāt as dedicated & real as the Dom u seek, guess what? ur only going to attract or appeal to the very fakes & wannabes u arenāt wanting to be with long-term. Or what Real Doms there are, - will not deal with u for long.
So to recapā¦..
1.) KNOW UR ROLE. ā know what u have to offer the Dom u seek.
2.) STOP āGiftingā ur Submission, instead, - SURRENDER Within the honest Negotiation of POWER EXCHANGE With ur Dominant.
Hopefully I have made Myself clear on this post and the other what at least I expect of u to start with and I also hope that u take away from these two posts a way to live this lifestyle better than maybe u have before.....
Yours in the struggle,
its..SIR...to u
7 years ago