On Punishment, Part 1: Extended Denial

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This is the most common form of punishment that I use and so it is appropriate to address it first.

It is both incredibly simple and yet very effective as a punishment. True, it perhaps doesn't have the "short, sharp, shock" effect that some punishments might, but I find that it allows an awful lot of time for the subject to think about what they did wrong and how to avoid doing it again. It is quite a powerful tool in that regard.

I use this punishment for relatively minor indiscretions (and in truth sometimes if I just don't feel that a release has been fully earned), e.g. extended procrastination regarding something I have asked; doing something wrong to the extent where it needs to be done again, or I have to get involved myself when I shouldn't need to; forgetting things that have been asked for (e.g. item(s) in a shopping trip) etc. etc. If the misdemeanour is more serious, then I will probably use a different punishment, but it may very well go hand in hand with an extended lock-up time as well.

When a misdemeanour happens, I make sure that I inform the subject straight away that I am displeased and that I consider it worthy of punishment. I *always* then take some time (usually just a couple of minutes, but sometimes hours or even a day!) to consider what punishment to use. I find this stops me making knee-jerk decisions and helps me to maintain some consistency in my decisions. It also gives the subject a little time to worry about what I may decide - I always find that adds to the punishment in itself and can leave the subject unsettled for at least a short time! I always explain exactly what was wrong and what should have been done to either avoid it, or correct the situation and I will then pass sentence.

The length of time I add is completely dependent on the misdemeanour, but I do try and be as consistent as I can, for everyone's benefit and for my sense of fairness! For very minor indiscretions it may be a day or so, for more serious ones a week, or two. The longest, to date, was an additional month (this also went hand in hand with another punishment). This was a little while ago now, but was for forgetting to pick a relative of mine up from the railway station resulting in them having to walk 2 miles, with a walking stick (I was NOT happy as you can imagine!). Let's just say he was very apologetic and he hasn't forgotten any relatives since LOL.

If time has been added, then I always remind the subject of why he remains under lock and key on at least two further occasions:

1) The time when the normal scheduled release would have happened without the punishment, and

2) Immediately before the actual release following the additional time.

I will also invariably make the release after an extended time a very efficient and rapid affair, my disdain is usually clear! I will sometimes make him take care of himself, under supervision of course. To the best of my ability and timing, the orgasm will be ruined with as little pleasure as possible. This adds to the punishment and helps to hammer the message home.

In summary, I find this a very simple and effective punishment - particularly when you want the subject to have lots of time to contemplate why he is sat there locked up for so long; because of this, it is very effective for behaviour modification!

The next in the series will be: MToP Part 2: Solitary confinement / sensory deprivation

Until then, take care,

Emily ylimE
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