Your Inner Seductress
FOR SUPERHOT SEX
To switch gears in lovemaking from sweet to spicy, you need to mix things up a bit. Itâs about changing your approach and who you think you are in the bedroom. Donât be afraid to take a risk.
Share a steamy fantasy. Always wanted to go at it in an elevator, Ă la Fatal Attraction? Been daydreaming about a Greyâs-style fling in the hospital on-call room? Tell him. It stimulates the mind in a new way and can lead to unbelievable sex. Let your imagination run wild â just the thought of something totally risquĂ© or out of your comfort zone is enough to get you both hot and bothered.
Blare rock music. Your beau knows the score when you press play on Marvin Gaye â which is all the more reason to send him a signal that tonightâs the night for something different. Pop in AC/DCâs Black Ice with a wink and a nudge. The more intense the tunes, the more testosterone will pump through his system. Before you know it, he wonât be able to keep his hands off you.
Get a haircut. Or a new outfit. Or wear red lipstick instead of your typical clear gloss. If youâre the girl who goes to bed in white undies, throw on a garter belt one night. It lends novelty and excitement and sets the scene for something hotter.
FOR SWEET LOVINâ
Sometimes you want to have sex just to rekindle the intimacy with your man â and he probably does too. So ramp up the tenderness for a sweet, slow session.
Take eye contact. When men look at pictures of women in the buff, theyâre more likely to look at a womanâs face first, according to a study by researchers at Emory University. Why? Women can easily tell by looking at naked men whether guys are in the mood, but womenâs bodies donât reveal much, which could be why men zoom in on their faces â but facial expressions are one way of showing an indication of interest in and enjoyment of sex. Staring into your loverâs eyes lets him know that youâre as into him as he is into you.
Massage his feet. Tickle his back, or rub his belly â anything that makes him feel relaxed. If you can counteract his cortisol [or stress] levels by relaxing him, then you can set the mood for connective sex. In other words, heâll be able to concentrate on you rather than on those Excel reports due on Friday.
Look at old pictures together. By doting on memories the two of you have made, youâll trigger those same feelings of overwhelming love (and lust) you had at the beginning of your relationship.
FOR THE QUINTESSENTIAL QUICKIE
Thereâs a reason they called that old game Seven Minutes in Heaven: because passion can hit even higher levels when it comes in bite-size pieces.
Try the 90-second make-out. If time is really short, passionately kiss, touch, fondle, and fool around for a minute and a half.
Make a sex date. Know your manâs work schedule slows down a bit on Thursday? Tell your guy youâll have a 15-minute window of opportunity at 4 p.m. and wink. Itâs an appointment heâs sure to keep.
Text for sex. If you heat things up when youâre apart, youâll both be boiling over once you get together.
FOR AN ALL-NIGHT (OR ALL-MORNING) ROMP
Yes, in a long-term relationship, marathon sex may feel like a luxury you canât really afford, but it shouldnât be off the table altogether. Make a special point to carve out more time together and dedicate it to sex. The two of you are worth putting something else on hold for.
Play tennis. Or run together, or climb a mountain, or play a board game. Anything competitive will do. Competition will spike both of your testosterone levels for extended periods of time. Translation? Youâll be randier for longer.
Give him a pomegranate martini and a smile. According to a new study from Sussex University, pomegranate juice boosts menâs sex drive. The men in the study were found to kiss more passionately after drinking the juice and looked at photos of scantily clad women 16-percent longer than other men. Bottoms up!
Plan a trip and pack light. Surprise him with a vacation to a beachy destination. Give him the tickets, a skimpy bikini, and note that says, âThis is the only thing Iâll be wearing the entire time.â Heâll get the idea. Or, if your budget is tight at the moment, try turning your home into a spa for the night. Take a bubble bath, light oodles of candles, give each other massages, and remind him that the same rules apply: only your teeny-weeny bikini â or birthday suits â allowed.
FOR MAKE-UP MOJO
Big blowups used to mean steamy reunions afterward. Now that life (and fights) are more complex, sex is often the furthest thing from your mind in the wake of an argument. But getting physical might be the very best thing you can do. âSex is healing,â explains Kerner. âIt can take you to a place where words often canât.â
Be ready to forgive. If you want to have make-up sex, you have to be willing to make the first move. A lot of guys wonât initiate make-up sex because they feel like their ego is on the line. Saying a simple âIâm sorryâ takes the pressure off him and can get the ball rolling in the right direction (toward the bedroom).
Tell a joke. Sometimes after a big blowout, the best way to push things in a more harmonious direction is to lighten the mood. Try a flirtatious smile to diffuse the tension in the situation, or a sexy joke. Youâll send him the message that itâs time to kiss and make up. Literally.
Hug him. Once youâre in his arms and pressing your body up against his, unless heâs suffering from hormonal imbalance, heâs going to shift his thinking toward sex. If all else fails: Take your clothes off and say, âI want to have sex. Before long, neither of you will even remember what you were fighting about.
Thanks for reading my blog!
If anyone wants to chat with me add me on yahoo messenger, my id is sexy.michelle19
To switch gears in lovemaking from sweet to spicy, you need to mix things up a bit. Itâs about changing your approach and who you think you are in the bedroom. Donât be afraid to take a risk.
Share a steamy fantasy. Always wanted to go at it in an elevator, Ă la Fatal Attraction? Been daydreaming about a Greyâs-style fling in the hospital on-call room? Tell him. It stimulates the mind in a new way and can lead to unbelievable sex. Let your imagination run wild â just the thought of something totally risquĂ© or out of your comfort zone is enough to get you both hot and bothered.
Blare rock music. Your beau knows the score when you press play on Marvin Gaye â which is all the more reason to send him a signal that tonightâs the night for something different. Pop in AC/DCâs Black Ice with a wink and a nudge. The more intense the tunes, the more testosterone will pump through his system. Before you know it, he wonât be able to keep his hands off you.
Get a haircut. Or a new outfit. Or wear red lipstick instead of your typical clear gloss. If youâre the girl who goes to bed in white undies, throw on a garter belt one night. It lends novelty and excitement and sets the scene for something hotter.
FOR SWEET LOVINâ
Sometimes you want to have sex just to rekindle the intimacy with your man â and he probably does too. So ramp up the tenderness for a sweet, slow session.
Take eye contact. When men look at pictures of women in the buff, theyâre more likely to look at a womanâs face first, according to a study by researchers at Emory University. Why? Women can easily tell by looking at naked men whether guys are in the mood, but womenâs bodies donât reveal much, which could be why men zoom in on their faces â but facial expressions are one way of showing an indication of interest in and enjoyment of sex. Staring into your loverâs eyes lets him know that youâre as into him as he is into you.
Massage his feet. Tickle his back, or rub his belly â anything that makes him feel relaxed. If you can counteract his cortisol [or stress] levels by relaxing him, then you can set the mood for connective sex. In other words, heâll be able to concentrate on you rather than on those Excel reports due on Friday.
Look at old pictures together. By doting on memories the two of you have made, youâll trigger those same feelings of overwhelming love (and lust) you had at the beginning of your relationship.
FOR THE QUINTESSENTIAL QUICKIE
Thereâs a reason they called that old game Seven Minutes in Heaven: because passion can hit even higher levels when it comes in bite-size pieces.
Try the 90-second make-out. If time is really short, passionately kiss, touch, fondle, and fool around for a minute and a half.
Make a sex date. Know your manâs work schedule slows down a bit on Thursday? Tell your guy youâll have a 15-minute window of opportunity at 4 p.m. and wink. Itâs an appointment heâs sure to keep.
Text for sex. If you heat things up when youâre apart, youâll both be boiling over once you get together.
FOR AN ALL-NIGHT (OR ALL-MORNING) ROMP
Yes, in a long-term relationship, marathon sex may feel like a luxury you canât really afford, but it shouldnât be off the table altogether. Make a special point to carve out more time together and dedicate it to sex. The two of you are worth putting something else on hold for.
Play tennis. Or run together, or climb a mountain, or play a board game. Anything competitive will do. Competition will spike both of your testosterone levels for extended periods of time. Translation? Youâll be randier for longer.
Give him a pomegranate martini and a smile. According to a new study from Sussex University, pomegranate juice boosts menâs sex drive. The men in the study were found to kiss more passionately after drinking the juice and looked at photos of scantily clad women 16-percent longer than other men. Bottoms up!
Plan a trip and pack light. Surprise him with a vacation to a beachy destination. Give him the tickets, a skimpy bikini, and note that says, âThis is the only thing Iâll be wearing the entire time.â Heâll get the idea. Or, if your budget is tight at the moment, try turning your home into a spa for the night. Take a bubble bath, light oodles of candles, give each other massages, and remind him that the same rules apply: only your teeny-weeny bikini â or birthday suits â allowed.
FOR MAKE-UP MOJO
Big blowups used to mean steamy reunions afterward. Now that life (and fights) are more complex, sex is often the furthest thing from your mind in the wake of an argument. But getting physical might be the very best thing you can do. âSex is healing,â explains Kerner. âIt can take you to a place where words often canât.â
Be ready to forgive. If you want to have make-up sex, you have to be willing to make the first move. A lot of guys wonât initiate make-up sex because they feel like their ego is on the line. Saying a simple âIâm sorryâ takes the pressure off him and can get the ball rolling in the right direction (toward the bedroom).
Tell a joke. Sometimes after a big blowout, the best way to push things in a more harmonious direction is to lighten the mood. Try a flirtatious smile to diffuse the tension in the situation, or a sexy joke. Youâll send him the message that itâs time to kiss and make up. Literally.
Hug him. Once youâre in his arms and pressing your body up against his, unless heâs suffering from hormonal imbalance, heâs going to shift his thinking toward sex. If all else fails: Take your clothes off and say, âI want to have sex. Before long, neither of you will even remember what you were fighting about.
Thanks for reading my blog!
If anyone wants to chat with me add me on yahoo messenger, my id is sexy.michelle19
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