XHamster Friends
I had to keep denying a user who was sending me friend requests over and over. The user must have sent me 6 "friend" requests. After going through this with the user, I decided to post a rant regarding "friends".
The request was from a user in another country with no original content who spoke another language. No offense buddy, but why would you want to add me as a "friend"? You can't communicate with me very well and you have nothing original to share.
Not that my original content is that great, but at least I've added some and not all of it is of myself. In addition, I have tons of content in my favorites so anyone can see what i'm into and have some time to entertain themselves.
I don't add friends just for the sake of adding "friends".
I don't believe that adding "friends" is a sport and there is no prize for adding the most! I've been on this site for over 3 years and could easily have thousands of "friends". I choose to keep my number in the 300-400 range. I clean up my profile regularly and delete retired profiles and profiles of those who go 120+ days without logging in. Chances are they aren't coming back anyway!
Some profiles have 5000 friends and I don't see how they can actually interact with even 10% of them on a regular basis. Most of these with 5000 "friends" aren't really "friends" they are subscribers who want to see the awesome content.
Here's a little bit of insight on the types of profiles I'll send friend requests to or accept friend requests from:
1) Local - Would like the possibility of at least meeting and hanging out in a social setting away from the computer. call me old fashioned, but i prefer the company of human beings. Also, locals will have more in common with me outside of porn (lifestyle, demographic, etc) Any profiles from California will be some of the first i'll look at when i do a search but at a minimum, i prefer profiles from the United States. This is because we speak the same language and can chat at times that are compatible for both parties. i've had the privilege of meeting a few users in person and it was a great experience every time even if there was no sex involved.
2) Great Content - If you have something great to share, then i want to stay in touch so i can watch anything that is restricted to friends only and receive all your updates on the "My News" feed. if all you have is a few favorites and nothing original uploaded, do yourself a favor and at least do a blog or story post. give your "friends" a reason to go to your page.
3) Similar interests - If we have compatible kinks, fetishes, fantasies, etc I'll want to have you as a friend because we have something to actually communicate about. this is why i have a page of "About Me" on my profile. It lets everyone know about me and my fetishes. If you like what you read, add me. if not, no worries and move on.
4) Cool people - Lastly and very important! regardless of gender, sexual preference, race, language, location, etc if you are a cool person then i'll want to be friends with you. If you are a beautiful woman with thousands of pics and videos posted, but you are a raging bitch to anyone who doesn't pay you, then i'm not interested. i'd rather have someone who will drop a nice comment back at me once in awhile then someone who has lots of content and doesn't even speak to people without getting something for it.
Okay, i'm done with my rant now back to the porn!
The request was from a user in another country with no original content who spoke another language. No offense buddy, but why would you want to add me as a "friend"? You can't communicate with me very well and you have nothing original to share.
Not that my original content is that great, but at least I've added some and not all of it is of myself. In addition, I have tons of content in my favorites so anyone can see what i'm into and have some time to entertain themselves.
I don't add friends just for the sake of adding "friends".
I don't believe that adding "friends" is a sport and there is no prize for adding the most! I've been on this site for over 3 years and could easily have thousands of "friends". I choose to keep my number in the 300-400 range. I clean up my profile regularly and delete retired profiles and profiles of those who go 120+ days without logging in. Chances are they aren't coming back anyway!
Some profiles have 5000 friends and I don't see how they can actually interact with even 10% of them on a regular basis. Most of these with 5000 "friends" aren't really "friends" they are subscribers who want to see the awesome content.
Here's a little bit of insight on the types of profiles I'll send friend requests to or accept friend requests from:
1) Local - Would like the possibility of at least meeting and hanging out in a social setting away from the computer. call me old fashioned, but i prefer the company of human beings. Also, locals will have more in common with me outside of porn (lifestyle, demographic, etc) Any profiles from California will be some of the first i'll look at when i do a search but at a minimum, i prefer profiles from the United States. This is because we speak the same language and can chat at times that are compatible for both parties. i've had the privilege of meeting a few users in person and it was a great experience every time even if there was no sex involved.
2) Great Content - If you have something great to share, then i want to stay in touch so i can watch anything that is restricted to friends only and receive all your updates on the "My News" feed. if all you have is a few favorites and nothing original uploaded, do yourself a favor and at least do a blog or story post. give your "friends" a reason to go to your page.
3) Similar interests - If we have compatible kinks, fetishes, fantasies, etc I'll want to have you as a friend because we have something to actually communicate about. this is why i have a page of "About Me" on my profile. It lets everyone know about me and my fetishes. If you like what you read, add me. if not, no worries and move on.
4) Cool people - Lastly and very important! regardless of gender, sexual preference, race, language, location, etc if you are a cool person then i'll want to be friends with you. If you are a beautiful woman with thousands of pics and videos posted, but you are a raging bitch to anyone who doesn't pay you, then i'm not interested. i'd rather have someone who will drop a nice comment back at me once in awhile then someone who has lots of content and doesn't even speak to people without getting something for it.
Okay, i'm done with my rant now back to the porn!
10 years ago
