Men of xhamster: Do yourselves a favor...

and calm the fuck down. With the ratio of men-to-women probably already sitting at 100:1 or more, why does it seem like so many of you are hell-bent on driving the remaining women off of this site?(gay men not included, of course. This isnt directed at you guys.)It seems like every week, someone on my friend list has decided to close her account, and if Im able to catch her before she does so and ask her why, 99% of the time they give the same reason: disrespectful men. And lets not forget about the tons of women who dont even last a few hours before being scared off. Guys, I understand that you may feel as if youre being ignored because she wont respond to your messages or comments, or she wont add you as a friend. I understand that some of the women here are fake, or love the massive amounts of attention that they get, or they may even be genuinely shitty people. I get it, I really do. However, theres really no excuse to send someone a message a minute, then turn around and insult/demean her when she doesnt answer right away. It is very possible that she has hundreds of messages to deal with, or literally over a thousand friend invites (seen it myself.) With so many men vying for the attention of so few women, youre going to fall by the wayside sometimes. Thats really just how it is. Throwing a tantrum like a c***d and calling someone a miserable bitch, while it may make you feel better for a fraction of a second, is, in reality, doing nothing but ensuring that more and more women leave the site. Odds are, youre misdirecting your anger and causing interesting and intelligent people to leave. It is ridiculously counter-productive, and completely flies in the face of simple logic (isnt that something that so many men pride themselves on? Being logical?) So, in short, if youve sent three messages or so, and she doesnt answer within a few hours, just calm down, back off for a day or so, and try again later. If she still doesnt talk to you, just get over it and go talk to someone else. Oh, and stop hounding the lesbians. Seriously, cut that shit out. (Apparently, xhamster blogs dont like apostrophes)
Published by gimmecurves
14 years ago
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Mehak4love
Mehak4love 10 months ago
I am one of those women who abandoned ship a year back only to find the site taking everything good away. Talking to men here is almost impossible. So guess will focus on prioritising ME and ignore the rude fucks!
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eeterniti
eeterniti 12 months ago
I know this was written a while ago, but thank you for making this appeal.  I love being here, and I've met guys I truly consider dear friends, and I hope to meet more, but I'm here to pursue my own pleasure.  Chatting has become a wonderful and satisfying part of my sex life, but having people make demands of me just ruins it.
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6inchmushroomhead
Kind words and respect go a long way in life . 
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SteevandEllie
SteevandEllie 6 months ago
Xhamster and their apostrophes and other ‘quirky’ code issues drives me absolutely bananas 🍌 As a woman it’s  a very difficult platform in multiple ways unfortunately.
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me4cplay
me4cplay 9 months ago
Well said
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bibi_scar
bibi_scar 1 year ago
Great post and so true...I fear those who should read this post will not do it and keep going the way/the approach like they have done it before..they might never stop, that is so sad
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KnightUnderCover
KnightUnderCover 1 year ago
Well said, and very true
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WetRumandCum
WetRumandCum 1 year ago
yes!!! all this
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kantoanan4
kantoanan4 1 year ago
I agree with you
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Swift25
Swift25 1 year ago
Respect
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imlatexxx
imlatexxx 1 year ago
totally true same experiences, with the added, "Hi! blank tell me a story of what your going to do to me/you " 
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kooter 1 year ago
So true
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Lyndamilfxx
Lyndamilfxx 1 year ago
Well said 
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dhardener
dhardener 2 years ago
e=hello its dan,,,i just want to teel you how amazing a woman you are,,,,classy and so sexy,,,,wow   makes my life much better
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hip12out
hip12out 2 years ago
we spend less that 5% of are time think or doing sex so why all the effort?
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trucktome 2 years ago
well said 
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Carol957
Carol957 2 years ago
Wow. 11 years ago and very little has changed.
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mothersfun
mothersfun 2 years ago
I have had some nice men talking to me on here. But mostly arrogant idiots. I do enjoy the nice comments from the good ones though.
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Manroot 2 years ago
my pleasure Kimmie.  There are so m any beautiful, sexy women on here andd unfortunately, i only get to talk with a small number.  the trouble with too many men on too  many sites is that for them, 'NO' is not an acceptable answer.  for there to be respect and trust, it must be.  Ooops, lemmee get off my soapbox
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Manroot 2 years ago
to FaceRydah : That is unfortunate to hear, but reality.  I do appreciate that at least you have not competely closed off access to your profile
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Manroot 2 years ago
to FirmHose : Wow, the voice of reason.  these women are here to be sexual, but they will define how, or bye-bye.  
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Manroot 2 years ago
to MsKityneedsluv : Yes, unjustified, overconfidence.  I don't want y our cum on my face.  Most of the women here dont ether.  they  have specific desires and want to be with a certain kind of person, for vast majority.  and usuallly it aint you
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Manroot 2 years ago
to XNURSE : seduce a woman.  it is the same as in the real world.
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Manroot 2 years ago
to AmieJ20 : Yep.  you are so right.  do these men that women who in real life wouldnt walkaway from this behaviour would not do this online?  If you think they want to be degraded or treated rough,. i have and idea............ASK THEM!!!
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Manroot 2 years ago
cool .  a woman on the site.  sorry that you feel y ou must lock y our profiel
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Manroot 2 years ago
You are right.  treat these women with respect and respect their decsions.  especially treating them rough and uising ausive language before thety are comfortable having you do it is a great way to sour them on this site.  Even if you write them off as just being sluts, they  are the ones who decide whether to be here or not.  besides, a woman who decides she wants to perve with me is the kind of slut I want on the site.  if a woman blocks you, it is clear that this is the last time she wants to see  you.  Learn from it.  read their profiles.  many of these ladies say some things about how they want to be treated.  it i s so easy to go read that.  yeah, most of them are tired of receiving dick pics amongst other things
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nascar10124
nascar10124 3 years ago
you are so right about it all my friend hope you all have a nice week
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LeeBosch 3 years ago
WELL WRITTEN, I DO SOME MISSING APOSTROPHIES.  
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nascar10124
nascar10124 3 years ago
You are so right about all this my friend 
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snorkie1979
snorkie1979 4 years ago
Those are the men with ego issues .
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