Am I alone in feeling unwell?
I'm calm
Suddenly the message notification, curious, I go to see.
A person I've never spoken to, no comment or reply to anything... It's a bi man coming, but with the trangenre symbol next to his name I don't understand how it works but so be it.
[They] Hi beautiful
[Me] Hey, hi. Have we met before?
[They] No
[Me] Ok, what do you want?
[They] You're handsome
[They] Swap...
[They] Don't bother
[Me] I'm not very comfortable with someone who pops into my PMs, without asking first, whom I don't know and who tells me 2 times in 5 messages that I'm handsome and a boy... even though I advertise as non-binary... it's pretty intense...
[They] No problem...
[They] My mistake
[They] No problem
Personally, I'm overwhelmed. If I want to talk to someone, I always try to see if the person is comfortable first, like asking them in public but mostly by talking to them. On my profile, I mark that "I'm in a relationship and I'm not looking for a relationship here or a friendship outside here"... to tell me that I'm "beautiful" from the outset, I think that's really superficial. If you want to put me at ease, ask me if you can (if I want to talk) or at least if it's okay... I found that it was as if he came in with neon signs: "I want to fuck you."
And if that were the case, but he'd approached me better, and said "I've read your profile, but I want to tell you that you're gorgeous and I'm very attracted to you" I'd have been 1000 times more interested in continuing the convo after explaining it to him.
I know we're here because we like sex and want to touch each other in front of our computers... but could we have a little courtesy and manners? At least he didn't say ASL (Age Sex Location?) and you want to see my cock?
What do you think?
Suddenly the message notification, curious, I go to see.
A person I've never spoken to, no comment or reply to anything... It's a bi man coming, but with the trangenre symbol next to his name I don't understand how it works but so be it.
[They] Hi beautiful
[Me] Hey, hi. Have we met before?
[They] No
[Me] Ok, what do you want?
[They] You're handsome
[They] Swap...
[They] Don't bother
[Me] I'm not very comfortable with someone who pops into my PMs, without asking first, whom I don't know and who tells me 2 times in 5 messages that I'm handsome and a boy... even though I advertise as non-binary... it's pretty intense...
[They] No problem...
[They] My mistake
[They] No problem
Personally, I'm overwhelmed. If I want to talk to someone, I always try to see if the person is comfortable first, like asking them in public but mostly by talking to them. On my profile, I mark that "I'm in a relationship and I'm not looking for a relationship here or a friendship outside here"... to tell me that I'm "beautiful" from the outset, I think that's really superficial. If you want to put me at ease, ask me if you can (if I want to talk) or at least if it's okay... I found that it was as if he came in with neon signs: "I want to fuck you."
And if that were the case, but he'd approached me better, and said "I've read your profile, but I want to tell you that you're gorgeous and I'm very attracted to you" I'd have been 1000 times more interested in continuing the convo after explaining it to him.
I know we're here because we like sex and want to touch each other in front of our computers... but could we have a little courtesy and manners? At least he didn't say ASL (Age Sex Location?) and you want to see my cock?
What do you think?
3 months ago