Advice for men dating transgender and CDs

So I decided to write a few things about transgender women and crossdressing females that is mostly focused toward guys since I see so many comments on videos that tells me they need to step up their game and learn. I don't at all claim to be any sort of expert and these comments are based on my experience as a straight guy dating genetic females and then ‘transitioning’ (pardon the pun) to trans women. I have dated a handful of mtf trans girls (one for an extended period of time) and have had a few casual encounters with crossdressers (CDs) who would fit the category of ‘sissies’ as people call them here. The trans women I have dated were all in their late 20s and early 30s and the CDs were all between the ages of 19-24. All of these girls were Hispanic due primarily to where I live.

Some people would consider my orientation as “Bi” but I disagree as I am not attracted to men and I don’t consider a trans/CD to be a man….we can disagree on that but that’s how I see it. I don’t claim to know everything or claim to be an expert and again, the following is based on my experience and what I have learned. If you have read this far, perhaps you are a man interested in transgender/transexual relationships or you might be a trans woman or CD yourself and can add some ideas in the comments section. In any event, here goes.

Guys - a few things you need to know if you are going to date or have experienced with trans and CDs.

1. Never refer to her in person as a shemale or tranny…that’s a big no-no and while some won’t be offended, many more will be so just refer to her in the female sense.

2. Remember the above rule when thinking about making that first move. A simple kiss goes a long way honestly but some will assume that as a man, you won't want to kiss due to their gender. You'll have to feel the vibes out on that one but trust me, if kissing is her thing and a hot makeout session ensures, you'll likely find that they kiss much more passionately and aggressively than a true female. In my experience, trans women absolutely adore having a man's hands all over their asses during kissing so don't be shy and pay lots of attention to that.

3. Trans women, like men, love sex but just like gg girls, many feel offended if you are too pushy as they need to emotionally ‘connect’ just like a woman.

4. Although it can be awkward bringing this up, try and find a respectful way to bring up HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) and see if she is taking them. This will sometimes have an effect on certain things such as her emotional state/mood swings, her sexual functioning (erection and sperm load), and with some girls, even her orientation (top/bottom/versatile).

5. Understand that (in sex) while you may have this fantasy to do things you can never do with a regular woman, don’t automatically assume she wants that. Everyone loves respect, hugs, kissing, and passionate sex but don’t automatically assume she wants you slobbering on her cock (think of it as her clit). For some, they will love it and encourage you on, but for others, it offends their sense of being a ‘woman’…remember, most have this internal feeling of being a woman. If she is keen to being orally pleased, have a plan in mind for 'the end'..nothing shows rejection more than jumping up and running to the bathroom to spit. If you are not cool with having her cum in your mouth, gesture for her to cum on your chest, your cock, or wherever else. If she does cum in your mouth (and its rare to find one that wants to) then know that its going to taste very 'male' and foreign. If she's not a hormones, expect it to be just like yours, thick, warm, somewhat salty and not always so easy to swallow. I only dated one girl who truly enjoyed being sucked and swallowed so I always kept a soda close the bed and took a big drink right after....the acid in it breaks down sperm and washes that clingy feel that's usually stuck in your throat. The emotion of this happening is going to give you sensory overload the first time. Essentially, you look up and see this sexy as hell perfumed up female form over you who smells and tastes like a total woman until that happens and your body and taste buds remind you of her birth gender.

6. Many trans women have gorgeous booties and as men, we are wired to notice it. Every girl I have ever been with absolutely got super turned on during kissing if I ran my hands down their back and felt and rubbed their booties. This is definitely one of their erogenous zones so don't be shy about complimenting her about her ass and also touching it. However, this doesn't mean when things get steamy to just dive in and start eating it like female pussy. In my experience, most love a guy open-minded enough to do this for them as it confirms their sense of femininity but some are self conscious or aren't used to being rimmed. One sign a guy needs to be in tune with involves 69 (if it gets to this). Assuming she is on top and giving you oral, the position of her knees says a lot about what she is wanting or comfortable with. If she is simply on her hands and knees above you with her knees near your head and her clit dangling over your face, you don't need me to tell you what she wants. If, on the other hand, she get on top and positions her knees way down by your waist, she knows what she is doing and trust me, its not her cock that she wants pleasured. I know not everyone is cool giving rim jobs but this is definitely the signal she is giving off. Have an open mind and go for it. Some trans girls are shy to admit this but in my experience, they all adore the feel of a man's tongue sucking on them back there or sliding it inside her love canal. Have an open mind and definitely get the thought out of your head that you will be going down on something ‘dirty’…its not going to happen as trans girls are very ‘self aware’ of their bodies and they take their cleanliness very very seriously...Its going to taste very normal I assure you.
Also, if she is a bigger girl (curvy, BBW, or has a big ass) its going to have a more noticeable hint of muskiness. This doesn't mean she is dirty, its just that there is more skin under her panties rubbing together and it has a slightly different aroma.

If you truly want to impress her, try slowly circling your tongue around their rosebud a few times and gauge her movements and vocalization. If the signs say she likes it, take the next step and open your mouth and place your lips around her opening and then lightly kiss and suck it for a while. I can pretty-much guarantee that she isn't going to be complaining though. Inch inside her a little bit at a time, its going to be tight and you'll feel a sense of her skin wrapping around your tongue. Definitely a unique and sexy feeling. Its not liking eating pussy though so the muscles of your tongue in your throat area are going to get really tired the first few times until you get used to doing this.

7. Trans women and sissies alike love giving oral so just go with it and enjoy. In my experience, cis women don’t have anything on a trans in this department and its very likely you will find that a trans gives better head than any woman you have ever been with.

Special notes about ‘sissies.’

1. Sissies are Crossdressers with fantasies about being a woman. They don’t live their life as a woman full-time like a trans does. Some do but most don’t which means they transform into the female form. I have been lucky enough to have experienced a few so far (all under 25) and they were all magical in their own way.

2. So get the idea out of your head that you are with a man….actually this goes equal for CDs and Trans but especially for a CD. It might be more challenging with a CD because for some of them, they have to ‘dress’ in the hotel or place you meet them. This means that its possible you might initially see them in their male form but rest assured, they know how to dress and transform.

3. CDs can be slightly different than a full-time trans woman in how they feel and approach sex. One thing is for sure, they want to be the woman so its highly doubtful they will be asking to top you. They want to be a woman totally and like more domination than full time trans girls. I am not saying they want to be abused, far from it, they are exposing their vulnerability and sexual confusion so treat it with respect. They just want to be a girl and so no beta male action here, take control and be that man they want. Sissies definitely love sucking cock and they work really hard for that creamy ending. When you cum, just know that most experience this feeling of being emasculated and they love it so again, just be the 'man' they are wanting to be with.

4. Again, always refer to them in the female sense and watch them light up and be so happy.

5. Last but not least...remember that if you spend the night together, she is going to wake up in the morning with a hard-on just like you do. You might want t have a plan on how to handle that and how to proceed but by now, let's hope you have already figured that out and accepted it.

That’s all for now….if you have issues with manhood and guys being in CD and trans relationships, I respect that but don’t bash me for my lifestyle and choices. Everyone is different. I am confident in my manhood and just like marching to a slightly different beat. Peace out.