Revenge Sex - Why Woman do it ?
Revenge Sex - Sounds weird, but it is far common then we think. Getting dumped or cheated on sends our egos for a toss and most people are ready to stoop to any level to get ‘even’ with their partners or try giving their ego’s a nice little boost by hooking up with random partners. A break up not only breaks the heart but also hurts the ego equally and revenge sex is just another feeble attempt at getting back at your partner.Such people need a good proof that they can have anyone they want and they really don’t need their partners anymore.
The moral purpose of revenge is to make one understand/realize their mistakes they did upon you. If you do something bringing harm to them in some way that does not help them realize what they Did Specifically To You Was Bad — that’s when you’re in the Wrong.
Revenge’s main motive isn’t harm. It really isn’t. But to make one feel-realize the wrong they did to you, will Usually bring some level of harm in some way. It’s not about bringing pain, but for one who does not at all appreciate the harm they did to you — putting themselves in your shoes is going to at least have some sting to it.
You first see if Revenge is applicable. If your lover cheated on you, then somewhat swiftly confessed with sorrow — and followed thru on that projection for a while, no revenge is needed. They convincingly felt sorrow and you put them in position to wallow in it and not escape that sorrow so readily. Breaking up with them in this case could be considered revenge when they want to respark the relationship, but if there was somewhat understandable reasons for them cheating (you weren’t the best BF/GF lately; you’ve crossed some lines here and there but not cheated tho; relationship was in a state of flux) — you may want to stay in it, especially if you have k**s.
But if they cheat on you, lie about it, then admit due to basically being caught, then exaggerate the reasons why & their “justifications” are half-assed at best — yes, that is where revenge can take place. You don’t want to cheat on them back, though — that’ll backfire. You’re just making Them Feel Better about cheating, instead. Merely breaking up in this scenario won’t be revenge — because at this point, it can easily be processed as a mutual breakup.
So what do you do?
- Announce it on Facebook for his/her friends & family to see (any evidence you got of him/her having sexy talk with another person, include; keep PG-rated)
- Add in the explanation that not only has he/she cheated, but how they exaggerated how bad things were to justify their planned actions
- Announce you’re breaking up with him/her due to this, and how it’s awful that they are not regretful about it, etc.
- Get back in the dating field ASAP, and use the experience as a motivator to live an even better/improved life, as that will aid in them feeling regret.
The moral purpose of revenge is to make one understand/realize their mistakes they did upon you. If you do something bringing harm to them in some way that does not help them realize what they Did Specifically To You Was Bad — that’s when you’re in the Wrong.
Revenge’s main motive isn’t harm. It really isn’t. But to make one feel-realize the wrong they did to you, will Usually bring some level of harm in some way. It’s not about bringing pain, but for one who does not at all appreciate the harm they did to you — putting themselves in your shoes is going to at least have some sting to it.
You first see if Revenge is applicable. If your lover cheated on you, then somewhat swiftly confessed with sorrow — and followed thru on that projection for a while, no revenge is needed. They convincingly felt sorrow and you put them in position to wallow in it and not escape that sorrow so readily. Breaking up with them in this case could be considered revenge when they want to respark the relationship, but if there was somewhat understandable reasons for them cheating (you weren’t the best BF/GF lately; you’ve crossed some lines here and there but not cheated tho; relationship was in a state of flux) — you may want to stay in it, especially if you have k**s.
But if they cheat on you, lie about it, then admit due to basically being caught, then exaggerate the reasons why & their “justifications” are half-assed at best — yes, that is where revenge can take place. You don’t want to cheat on them back, though — that’ll backfire. You’re just making Them Feel Better about cheating, instead. Merely breaking up in this scenario won’t be revenge — because at this point, it can easily be processed as a mutual breakup.
So what do you do?
- Announce it on Facebook for his/her friends & family to see (any evidence you got of him/her having sexy talk with another person, include; keep PG-rated)
- Add in the explanation that not only has he/she cheated, but how they exaggerated how bad things were to justify their planned actions
- Announce you’re breaking up with him/her due to this, and how it’s awful that they are not regretful about it, etc.
- Get back in the dating field ASAP, and use the experience as a motivator to live an even better/improved life, as that will aid in them feeling regret.
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