Hand job or hand relief?

My wife - who sometimes describes herself as a Masturbatrix - recently wrote a blog about the difference between hand jobs, hand relif and hand domination. Here's what she said:

I am sometimes asked what the difference is between a hand job, ‘hand relief’ and ‘hand domination’. I can only say what each of those terms means to me. To me there is a clear distinction between the first two but less clear difference between ‘hand relief’ and ‘hand domination’.

With a hand job the aim is to make the man cum and to do so quickly, without a lot of build-up, delay or tease. There’s a time and place for hand jobs. Say I meet a man in a pub and I decide I want him to cum and we go outside to the car park. There are people around so it’s risky. In this situation I’ll unzip him and go for it. Strong, fast, determined strokes, my hand a blur as he approaches climax and very quickly we reach the magical moment where his sperm is pouring over my hand and onto the ground. Job done and all in a matter of a couple of minutes.

For me hand relief is very different. First, as the word ‘relief’ suggests the subject is usually almost bursting with untapped semen and sperm. I will often have asked that he abstain from climaxing for as long as he reasonably can, often two weeks or more. I also encourage them to edge themselves each day, as this seems to promote the generation of even more sperm and creates lovely thick, white semen.

My approach to the ‘task in hand’ is to wear gloves (usually), to lubricate the cock with baby oil or lube and then to slowly build the strokes until the cock owner is approaching climax. I will then often slow it down or even stop altogether if necessary. Then I build them back up again. And down. And up again and so on. Even with a cock that’s not ejaculated for two weeks or more, in anticipation of our session, I can easily make this last for half an hour or more, as I’m very skilled at it. I’ll sometimes make them beg for release. When they are finally allowed to climax it’s usually very, very powerful and the force of ejaculation often results in their semen spurting over my cleavage and hands. Getting the first few plumes of sperm over my lips, chin and neck is not that unusual either. I’ve provided thousands of hand relief sessions, so I’m extremely experienced.

Hand domination is very similar but here I might stop altogether and cancel the session, simply to demonstrate that I will decide if and when the man can ejaculate. I may also mock his small penis or lack of firm erection. Making them beg for release is a joy and I have sometimes reduced men to tears because the frustration has become too much for them. If feeling particularly cruel I may start but stop and demand they perform some favour for me before I finish them off. On occasions, I’ve done some online shopping for heels and stockings using their credit card. I also sent one gent to the shops to get me some items before finishing him off on his return, desperate, humiliated and totally under my control.

And of course the outfit can be different if domination is part of the mix – more leather or PVC for example, perhaps whips or riding crops as part of the visual stimuli and lovely patent boots – knee length or thigh length add a certain something to the occasion.

I’m pleased to say that after hand relief or some hand domination, many men have told me that it was the most intense orgasm they have every experienced and most are so completely drained of seminal fluid that they are unable to ejaculate again for some time.

One gentleman told me earlier this year that the experience had been life changing for him, as he no longer wishes to have full sex with a woman, preferring to teach her the art of hand relief and now only cums by the hand. I felt proud of that.