When I was married to my Filipina wife, we went to a pool party put on by the dojo she went to. As the day went on things began to get wild - bikinis and trunks came off, couples began pairing up. I didn't realize it fully at the time but my wife had been going out behind my back with Ray, the guy whose house we were at. I was really drunk, partly to cover up my embarrassment as Ray chased my wife around the pool naked, picked her up and carried her inside. I pretended to be passed out, but everyone was looking at me and talking. After that their relationship was out in the open.