Luck...really? A lesson in THINKING
I wrote this 7 years ago....funny how it is timeless and still applies. It's original title is:
Luck? Really - A lesson in thinking (Step 1 of becoming a b**st)
BLUF (Bottom line upfront): Respect women, be confident in yourself, think positive.
You know I hear it a lot in conversation and I see it a lot in comments on my posts. Guys are always talking about sex like is a crapshoot, a game of chance and luck. SEX IS NOT and has NEVER BEEN a game of LUCK or CHANCE and the quicker a guy figures that out, the faster he will be more desirable to the opposite sex.
Think about it, you are walking through a casino you stroll up to a craps table and you see 6 guys, and 3 women (in some form attached to separate men). Guy #1, he's excited to be there, but he's a spectator, he's not really into playing cards, doesn't know how doesn't really care too much to learn, he's going to play because it's expected of him at the table, but he's mostly there just to watch the others play and mostly lose.
Guy #2 is down on his luck and it shows on his face, he doesn't want to be there, KNOWS that he will not be winning and basically is there because he has nothing better to do.
Guy #3 Is with a woman who seems to be distracted, there is discontent between the two, he is there playing because she wanted to, but she's wanting him to play and they make decisions together. He looks nervously at his cards and then quietly whispers to his female companion who rolls her eyes and whispers something back to him. He refocuses on the cards and places his bet
Guy #4 Is happy to be there, he's REALLY happy to be there, he knows he is on top right now and is watching when he has to walk away to stay on top. The woman next to him is scanning the table, mostly looking at the other two women, and often disdainfully looking at the other men. The happy man looks at his cards, looks at the other guys at the table, and with a smile...places his bet
Guy #5 Is a serious fellow, he is up, and definitely beating the house, his partner is glued to his side, tending to his requests for a sip of her drink or a drag of her cigarette. She isn't there for her, but for his company. She doesn't pay attention to the others at the table because taking care of the serious guy is pretty time-consuming. The serious man notices a lot, for example, that the lady with the nervous guy has looked at him 3 times in the last 2 minutes. The smiling and clueless guy to his left hasn't made his bet, nor has he looked at his cards...he's lost much more than he's won but yet seems totally oblivious to that fact. Yes, he notices a lot. And he's constantly thinking about the next move.
Which they are playing a game of luck, but only 4 really think it's a game of chance. The other guy knows it's a game of numbers.
You need to approach sex this way. It's NOT chance, it's you putting in the work to hear a yes. A no will not kill you, and for most women "no" simply means not right now. As a man, you need to have the confidence and the thoughtfulness to know that.
DO NOT INSULT A WOMAN BECAUSE SHE HAS DENIED YOU OR TURNED YOU DOWN.
This is the ultimate sign that you are a weak, insecure, and c***dish loser. Women are to be respected in public and although their opinions and thoughts although sometimes (ok a lot of times) are hard to comprehend, they too serve a purpose and until you figured that out...you will never be what they desire.
If a woman doesn't desire you, your thoughts should be, "Your loss sweetie" not some bravado macho way either, no need to say it, I said THINK it. Until you start seeing that a woman's desire for you is directly related to your confidence in yourself...you will never be successful in communicating with them. Communicating is the key element in getting a woman to want you. And be aware that just because she wants you, doesn't mean she will ever act on it. There are tons of social pressures a woman has to deal with (mostly put on them by other women and insecure men) so just because she wants you doesn't mean she will let you know. That's all in her body language. That's another lesson.
To think like a b**st, you need to be confident in yourself...if you feel you have nothing to be confident for...then create things in your life that you can be confident of. With self-confidence comes a certain form of self-awareness, with self-awareness comes a different outlook on things, a more positive one, with a positive outlook comes the attraction of positive people and things. It keeps rolling from there. It begins with you, however. YOU are the link to YOU becoming a b**st. LOVE and be truly PROUD of yourself. All men (and women) are created equal, it's what we do from the playground in kindergarten to the offices and bars that we eventually end up at that set us apart. Confidence, true, honest confidence in yourself is a very powerful aphrodisiac for women. Other factors come into play after you are noticed across the room. But that too is a different lesson.
You want to be Guy #4 or #5, if you aren't him, ask yourself how you can be him. And don't sit here and learn these things I am teaching to be a sheep in wolves clothing later...let it transform you into the man you can be 100% of the time.
More to follow.
Luck? Really - A lesson in thinking (Step 1 of becoming a b**st)
BLUF (Bottom line upfront): Respect women, be confident in yourself, think positive.
You know I hear it a lot in conversation and I see it a lot in comments on my posts. Guys are always talking about sex like is a crapshoot, a game of chance and luck. SEX IS NOT and has NEVER BEEN a game of LUCK or CHANCE and the quicker a guy figures that out, the faster he will be more desirable to the opposite sex.
Think about it, you are walking through a casino you stroll up to a craps table and you see 6 guys, and 3 women (in some form attached to separate men). Guy #1, he's excited to be there, but he's a spectator, he's not really into playing cards, doesn't know how doesn't really care too much to learn, he's going to play because it's expected of him at the table, but he's mostly there just to watch the others play and mostly lose.
Guy #2 is down on his luck and it shows on his face, he doesn't want to be there, KNOWS that he will not be winning and basically is there because he has nothing better to do.
Guy #3 Is with a woman who seems to be distracted, there is discontent between the two, he is there playing because she wanted to, but she's wanting him to play and they make decisions together. He looks nervously at his cards and then quietly whispers to his female companion who rolls her eyes and whispers something back to him. He refocuses on the cards and places his bet
Guy #4 Is happy to be there, he's REALLY happy to be there, he knows he is on top right now and is watching when he has to walk away to stay on top. The woman next to him is scanning the table, mostly looking at the other two women, and often disdainfully looking at the other men. The happy man looks at his cards, looks at the other guys at the table, and with a smile...places his bet
Guy #5 Is a serious fellow, he is up, and definitely beating the house, his partner is glued to his side, tending to his requests for a sip of her drink or a drag of her cigarette. She isn't there for her, but for his company. She doesn't pay attention to the others at the table because taking care of the serious guy is pretty time-consuming. The serious man notices a lot, for example, that the lady with the nervous guy has looked at him 3 times in the last 2 minutes. The smiling and clueless guy to his left hasn't made his bet, nor has he looked at his cards...he's lost much more than he's won but yet seems totally oblivious to that fact. Yes, he notices a lot. And he's constantly thinking about the next move.
Which they are playing a game of luck, but only 4 really think it's a game of chance. The other guy knows it's a game of numbers.
You need to approach sex this way. It's NOT chance, it's you putting in the work to hear a yes. A no will not kill you, and for most women "no" simply means not right now. As a man, you need to have the confidence and the thoughtfulness to know that.
DO NOT INSULT A WOMAN BECAUSE SHE HAS DENIED YOU OR TURNED YOU DOWN.
This is the ultimate sign that you are a weak, insecure, and c***dish loser. Women are to be respected in public and although their opinions and thoughts although sometimes (ok a lot of times) are hard to comprehend, they too serve a purpose and until you figured that out...you will never be what they desire.
If a woman doesn't desire you, your thoughts should be, "Your loss sweetie" not some bravado macho way either, no need to say it, I said THINK it. Until you start seeing that a woman's desire for you is directly related to your confidence in yourself...you will never be successful in communicating with them. Communicating is the key element in getting a woman to want you. And be aware that just because she wants you, doesn't mean she will ever act on it. There are tons of social pressures a woman has to deal with (mostly put on them by other women and insecure men) so just because she wants you doesn't mean she will let you know. That's all in her body language. That's another lesson.
To think like a b**st, you need to be confident in yourself...if you feel you have nothing to be confident for...then create things in your life that you can be confident of. With self-confidence comes a certain form of self-awareness, with self-awareness comes a different outlook on things, a more positive one, with a positive outlook comes the attraction of positive people and things. It keeps rolling from there. It begins with you, however. YOU are the link to YOU becoming a b**st. LOVE and be truly PROUD of yourself. All men (and women) are created equal, it's what we do from the playground in kindergarten to the offices and bars that we eventually end up at that set us apart. Confidence, true, honest confidence in yourself is a very powerful aphrodisiac for women. Other factors come into play after you are noticed across the room. But that too is a different lesson.
You want to be Guy #4 or #5, if you aren't him, ask yourself how you can be him. And don't sit here and learn these things I am teaching to be a sheep in wolves clothing later...let it transform you into the man you can be 100% of the time.
More to follow.
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